[–] 2 points 1 hour ago (1 child)

I don't think this actually is the line though, take masturbation for example, most folk masturbate to other people they know, technically this is involving others in a sexual way without consent but it's considered completely ok and normal because ultimately you're not doing anything TO them.

Same with wearing a buttplug in public, is it kinda strange? Yeah, sure, you can even say it's offputting and I would at least in some cases agree, but on a moral level you're not doing anything TO anyone, that's in my eyes the real line, if they don't know and have no way of knowing then it's not really causing harm.

Compare it to say flashing strangers in public, now you're doing something TO people, without consent and that is bad.

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  • [–] 7 points 10 hours ago (5 children)

    Same way you go around assuming most people aren't wearing vibrators and butt plugs in public, because some definitely do but it's probably best not to make negative assumptions about people.

    Personally though I don't even mind if people do kink in public so long as on a functional level it's not noticeable or at risk of making others uncomfortable.

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  • [–] 9 points 10 hours ago (5 children)

    I'm not denying SOME of it is sexual, but what you're doing is assuming that MOST or ALL of it is sexual, which is both wrong and also the result of cognitive biases and a good example of why extrapolation from anecdotes is a bad idea especially when it's fueled by confirmation bias

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  • [–] 13 points 10 hours ago (5 children)

    Everybody has preferences, it's not immoral to have different preferences than someone else, fetishizing is harmful when it causes you to stop treating someone like a person and instead treat them as an object.

    Because A: there are no actual furries irl to be harmed and B: most of the fandom is actually very invested in who their characters are as people

    I think that argument falls flat, I brought up aliens to counter the argument you made next about animals already existing. Because no animals on earth can talk. Furries might have animal characteristics but conceptually they are closer to aliens than animals unless you only care about visuals.

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  • [–] 13 points 10 hours ago (33 children)

    The costumes(with some exceptions) are just costumes though, not everyone who has a fursuit is even into the kinky stuff, you seem to be making a lot of assumptions and generalizations. It's not all sexual.

    If anything you might be the one oversexualizing here

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  • [–] 4 points 2 days ago

    The Slow Regard of Silent Things by Patrick Rothfuss: unique character writing and atmosphere

    The Story of Edgar Sawtelle: unique plot and structure

    Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy: uniquely whimsical writing style

    Parable of the Sower: unique emotional force behind the writing imparted on the reader

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  • [–] [S] 0 points 2 weeks ago*

    Sure it does, some like their roots drier or wetter, some have tap roots that might reach all the way down this tube to soil underneath, others are fibrous

    Cat mint would grow in this just fine but it's not edible, alternatively I doubt raspberries would like this much though. But my overall range of knowledge is limited. There are hundreds of species with unique growing conditions and while I could probably come up with a few that would grow in these I am asking because maybe there are others I wouldn't think of or don't know about.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 2 weeks ago

    That's not the ground I will be getting the soil from, maybe my bad for not mentioning that but I have ground with much higher quality soil nearby in my actual garden. I just haven't moved these there yet since they're heavy.

    Do you know any edible perennials that would grow well in a raised pot thing like this?

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    I am slowly working on creating a. Permaculture garden/ food Forest sort of thing and got these large clay drainage pipe sections for free but I'm not sure what would go well planting in them if I'm using them as stationary planters / small raised gardens, looking for perennial edibles preferably, but honestly any and all recommendations are welcome.

    I will basically just be filling them with dirt and planting stuff on top. Nothing detailed like filling them with different types of dirt or mulch or stone. Literally just dirt shoveled out of the ground.

    Shovel for scale.

     

    Small japanese maple seems to be dying, it's on the side of the house and gets partial shade, it is planted in mulch on a fabric barrier and a slight slope.

    It's been doing well for around a decade and this spring suddenly it is only growing leaves on a few branches in small vollyball sized areas while a good 90% of the plant has no leaves at all.

    Any ideas?

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