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[–] 154 points 2 months ago (10 children)

As an atheist, I don't go around bashing on others' beliefs - as long as they're respectful to others and don't use their beliefs to police others.

A grandma on her deathbed, trying to find comfort in her faith? Hell, I will sit with her and confirm that she's indeed about to see her dead husband and spend eternity with him. Because at that point, being kind is more important than being right or debating theology.

But, the moment you try to use your beliefs to dictate how others live (beyond basic morality, going beyond the golden rule), out comes the "fuck off with your imaginary sky daddy" argument. You are free to live your life by any doctrine you want, as long as it doesn't affect others negatively. You don't want to eat meat? Sure, go for it. You don't want to eat pork/beef/seafood? It's your body, your choice. You don't want to get an abortion or transition to a different gender or be in a gay relationship? Again, it's up to you. But the very second you try to tell others to live by your rules, you can fuck right off, and then fuck off some more just for good measure.

And it's not like I'm not open to debate. I guess at the end I'm more agnostic rather than atheist, in this aspect. I welcome theological debate. I'll gladly argue about it for hours as long as you're respectful. I've got a bunch of theist friends - Christians, Muslims, Hindu, a variety of pagan/wiccan witches, and so on - with whom we do sit down on occasion with a drink or a joint and debate various aspects of belief, religion (organised or personal), their effects and influences on society and vice versa. It can be a brilliant topic of discussion as long as everyone respects the others and listens to their side. After all, every single person has their own point of view formed by their upbringing, their life experiences, and so on, and these are equally important regardless if you agree with them or not. But it's equally important to understand that these debates aren't meant to convert anyone. They are there to convey a part of you you find important, so others can better understand you. Understanding why one turned away from, or turned to religion, and how that helped them as a person.

To summarise: religion is like a penis. It's okay to have one, it's okay to not have one. It's even okay to be proud of (not) having one. Hell, it's even okay to think yours is better than others'. What's not okay is pulling it out in public and trying to force it down others' throats, or try to legislate in the form of a dick measuring contest.

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  • [–] [S] 32 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    I agree that this is the best approach to it. Live and let live.

    I'm an atheist as well, and I definitely went through that stereotypical antagonistic phase when I was much younger, and now I cringe about it. I've softened on religion a lot since then and no longer view it as a human failing that has only caused harm. I respect that others may have reached a different conclusion than me, and I recognize that religion has served as a vehicle for culture that has driven much of the societal progress and values that we take for granted today.

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  • [–] 11 points 2 months ago

    I was very antagonistic because I grew up an atheist in a conservative ultracatholic hell. Now I live in a chill place that used to also be conservative ultracatholic hell. I got to meet religious people that didn't sincerely believe that I deserve to be tortured forever for not believing in what they do, who aren't bigots, who believe in abortions, who hate rapist priests. When people aren't mad at you all the time, it's so much more peaceful to reciprocate.

    It's easy to fall into antitheism when the only religious people around you are structurally supporting evil, it's hard when you see that people can actually have a positive relationship with their religion and community, even if they are incorrect about some metaphysical truth.

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  • [–] 19 points 2 months ago (5 children)

    fuck off with your imaginary sky daddy

    Do one better, tell them that your sky daddy is bigger than theirs and could beat him in a fight, then pull out pamphlets on your chosen fake god and give them to them for a change.

    Literally did it last week, couple Mormons came to sell me bullshit, I pulled out a couple pamphlets from The Church of the SubGenius and told them the good word of "Bob". Much more fun, and it's harder for them to dismiss than anti-theism outright because they're used to that but like nobody does this lmao.

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    [–] 104 points 2 months ago (5 children)

    As an atheist, I never bring up my beliefs unless asked. My religious friends and relatives on social media spout their shit non-stop. If I did 1/10th of that they'd be up in arms.

    This post just seems like a straw man to try and keep atheists invisible.

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  • [–] 19 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    Correct, plus if it's reddit it's possibly a bot created specifically to make that straw man real. Christians in particular have a persecution fetish, after all.

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  • [–] 13 points 2 months ago

    Eh I mean I was there 15 years ago when /r/atheism was a default subreddit (when default subreddits were a thing, nowadays I believe that's no longer the case). Some of the commenters/posters seemed like they'd be genuinely exhausting people in real life. Not a majority by any means, otherwise I would've unsubscribed fairly quickly.

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  • [–] 11 points 2 months ago (4 children)

    They found Russian agents working through social media to widen rifts in the US electorate, specifically on the vaccine debate. They had agents playing both sides: pro-vax and anti-vax.

    Who knows how many entities are doing this right now? On which topics? On which social networks?

    So, yes, fake atheists being assholes, but also fake Christians being assholes. You are always being manipulated. There is never a time you are not being manipulated.

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  • [–] 16 points 2 months ago

    Annoying militant atheists are definitely rarer than annoying militant christians, but they do exist. Especially on reddit. One of the reasons I enjoy lemmy is that those people are rarer.

    Fun side fact: I knew one of my two best friends for over a decade before finding out they were christian. They had been wearing the same cross necklace under their shirt that whole time. We just never talked about it because it didn’t come up and they aren’t preachy.

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    [–] 60 points 2 months ago* (3 children)

    This was me at my step-nephew's funeral after he killed himself.

    The whole service they were talking about him being in heaven. According to their own religious text he would go straight to hell. Luckily I was able to keep my mouth shut.

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    [–] 49 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    only people i've seen torment the dying at their beside is the christians.

    always the same spiel.. repent while you can, save your soul from eternal damnation. if you don't repent you'll spend all eternity in fire and torture, etc etc etc.

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    [–] 43 points 2 months ago (63 children)

    religious people are way worse, who cares

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  • [–] 43 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    Absolutely, You can be actively in the process of dying and they will be bible thumping your chest.

    I don't go door to door telling people they should be atheist but at least once a year someone knocks on my door to talk to me about Christ.

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    [–] 40 points 2 months ago (9 children)

    This is truly the behavior to expect from theists. You're lying there waiting for death and some wannabe preacher tells you that it's not too late to join their cult

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  • [–] 15 points 2 months ago

    I was at a funeral where the preacher was doing that! "If she were here now, she would tell you to make sure that you get your life right with Jesus." Um, no, she fucking wouldn't! Her fiance was sitting in front of me, and I thought I could see smoke coming out of his ears.

    It was her family's funeral, though, and apparently they were Christians.

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    [–] 38 points 2 months ago (5 children)

    Let's be honest: Going "(Your) God isn't real" when someone tells you a "God bless you" is straight disrespectful. It's their way of wishing you good things.

    I have an helenist friend whom I'd reply "Let's hope for it" if they said "hope the Gods are with us on this". Am I a Helenist? No.

    I tell my dad a "You too!" when he says "may God protect you on your way!". Am I a Christian? Nope!

    But is this their way of wishing someone a good day/good luck? Yes. The intention is what counts, after all.

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    [–] 35 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    Yea this totally happens in real life. Deeeeefinitely not a strawman you made up to feel better about yourself.

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  • [–] 28 points 2 months ago (8 children)

    What is it with people these days that atheism is suddenly considered a bad thing?

    Is it better to live with a psychosis, believing that you have a persona relationship with a sky creature that also talks back to you and helps specially you?

    And no, most atheists aren't the type of asshole who would start jeering against a grandmother who just wants to be with her dead husband again.

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    [–] 23 points 2 months ago

    This post is like a litmus test for separating pretentious reddit atheists from people who can actually take a joke, bravo

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  • [–] 22 points 2 months ago

    All I know is i've never had an athiest knock on my door too damned early on a Saturday morning to tell desperatly try to get me to believe in their particular lack of belief.

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  • [–] 22 points 2 months ago

    I hate organized religion with a passion. You bet your ass I was "catholic" when my grandfather passed and I was helping my grandmother with the funeral though. Im an atheist, not an asshole. I'm sure if their imaginary friend actually exists they can forgive me for pretending to believe to console my grieving grandmother

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  • [–] 18 points 2 months ago

    In either case, she’s not going to be disappointed

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  • [–] 17 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (14 children)

    I just love so much that some atheist(s) on reddit upset the fucking god botherers so much that this has become a drum they beat weekly after decades.

    sure bud, try to brand it as 'oh those mean / inconsiderate atheists' - sure thing child rapists, sure.

    edit: oh no someone upset the child rapists, gee whiz

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    [–] 16 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    A real reddit atheist would never be this well dressed. Still, it’s a great pic!

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    [–] 16 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    I feel like Reddit atheists are far too commonly given the spotlight, and intentionally so by theocratic fascists.

    There are countless genuinely terrible things about organized religion and its role and influence in society. This conversation absolutely needs to be had. Nobody serious is going to grieving or dying people to shit on their coping skills using religion.

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    [–] 15 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    This is Adam Conover slander.

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    [–] 15 points 2 months ago* (2 children)

    This is me when a mainline christian says there's another angel in heaven. Umm, ackchyually... Angels are non-corporeal creatures, having spirit but not bodies, and humans are corporeal creatures having both spirit and body. A human becoming an angel (a completely different species) is akin to a human becoming a lizard, or vice versa.

    Come on, Patrick. Get it together, Patrick!

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    [–] 14 points 2 months ago* (4 children)

    There's little kindness in breaking the grand comforting delusion of a dying delusional mind.

    Just let them go in peace, to do otherwise would be needlessly cruel.

    Or, maybe they deserve that cruelty: I don't have every relationship between every theist and atheist.

    Just be aware that it is cruelty.

    Some may deserve that, some may not.

    Or you could just not be there.

    That's all between you and... well, you.


    Now that that's done and dusted, may we return to discussing the affairs of the living?

    The cruelties repeatedly and incessantly enacted upon some category of them, by one particular group or another, because they don't share some particular principle or value in the way they live their lives?

    The cruelties that are themselves mandatory ritual elements of those particular group's worldviews?

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    [–] 13 points 2 months ago (4 children)

    Atheist?

    We call ourselves antitheist.

    (Yes, I'll talk about the ills of religion and why it should be abolished. No, I'm not doing it at grandmas deathbed.)

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    [–] 12 points 2 months ago

    The opening to that death episode of Adam Ruins Everything was insanely good.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HuKB0_t3J0A

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  • [–] 11 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    Fuck Reddit and Fuck Spez.

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