When the “woke” mania swept the country in 2020, I took a step back and reevaluated where I stood and why I stood there. To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on a number of issues. I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory. I argued against biological males competing in women’s sports and being housed in women’s prisons. I did so loudly and publicly, losing many friends along the way.

Today, some of those same attorneys I worked with are advocating for my right to marry my fiancée to be stripped away.

I fell for obvious right-wing propaganda and rationalized the hate with reason and logic. Now the hate machine is coming for me and that's not fair!

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[–] 206 points 4 months ago (15 children)

The whole affair made something clear: for many on the right, their past tolerance of gay and bi people who aligned with them on a few pet issues was never rooted in principle. It was always about convenience. We were never truly accepted — just temporarily useful. And now that some of us have outlived our political utility, they’re more than happy to throw us to the wolves the moment the opportunity arises.

I am still incredulous at the existence of Log Cabin (gay male) Republicans, or even Peter Thiel.

Why on earth would you give any support to an organization dedicated to the destruction of people like you?

Does your own hatred of minorities and the poor make you willing to risk joining forces with those who are likely to come after you next?

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  • [–] 79 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Exactly. It's not exactly like the right-wing hide their distain for all people of the LGBT spectra.

    It's the classic "but I'm one of the good ones" trope. There's no such thing, just tokens to be used and tossed away.

    No matter how much you try to be a "good one", you'll never truly be accepted amongst those who hate your kin. Once you've outlived your usefulness, they'll eat your face just like everyone else.

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  • [–] 43 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Peter Thiel has confidence that his own personal power will keep him safe. Since he's a sociopath, having homosexuality be illegal actually benefits him because if he gets tired of a relationship he can just out the other man and have them executed.

    It's not entirely clear to me whether history supports his confidence. But little no-name "activists" like the article author are always going to be destroyed.

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    [–] 136 points 4 months ago (7 children)

    When the “woke” mania swept the country in 2020, I took a step back and reevaluated where I stood and why I stood there. To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on a number of issues. I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory. I argued against biological males competing in women’s sports and being housed in women’s prisons. I did so loudly and publicly, losing many friends along the way. My stance wasn’t rooted in hate or fear but in a commitment to reason and fairness. My loyalty was to the truth, not to political tribes. Maintaining my integrity cost me greatly, but I believed it was worth it.

    Hey Reid Newton: you're a bigot and a complete fucking moron. Anyone that has two functioning braincells figured out within 10 minutes of first hearing it that "critical race theory" was just a euphemism for "the honest history of how America has fucked over every racial minority consistently though its entire history". If you think that DEI or critical race theory are real problems, you have the critical thinking skills of a brick wall. Fuck this gal for trying to rationalize her betrayal of her own community.

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  • [–] 55 points 4 months ago (8 children)

    100%

    Also the "it wasn't a fear-based decision, I just rationally opposed all the forced child gender-transitions". It's not possible to roll ones eyes hard enough.

    I actually do have empathy for a TERF who'd say, "I uncritically chugged conservative media and become terrified of stories about men 'transitioning' as a way to attach women. Now I see that was all lies and I was a fool who never tried putting myself in others' shoes."

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    [–] 102 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    You'd have to have been asleep for the last 50 years at least to not see this.

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  • [–] 34 points 4 months ago (8 children)

    Nope, this is natural.

    Like, straight up default human behavior, and conservativesare actually really good at manipulating people using basic human psychology.

    An absolute shit ton of people who grew up as "outsiders" really just want to be with the majority "in group" and are willing to side with them against smaller minorities.

    Like, that's the whole TERF thing in a nutshell.

    Women who were treated poorly for being women, and trying to side with their abusers against a weaker target.

    It's literally the reason most mothers abuse their children. Same psychology, just different target.

    Hell, it's the same reason weak men target women and children in the first place

    An innate desire for a "human pecking order" that displays at varying rates due to normal human variation.

    Racism too, LBJ described it generations ago after seeing firsthand what Republicans were doing in the South:

    If you can convince the lowest white man he's better than the best colored man, he won't notice you're picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he'll empty his pockets for you."

    https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/lbj-convince-the-lowest-white-man/

    We need to understand why this keeps working to fight it...

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    They didn’t “turn on” you. They were never on your fucking side to begin with, and you were a goddamn idiot for believing their very obvious and blatant lies to the contrary.

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  • [–] 81 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    "To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on [...]"

    ...totally imaginary issues that only existed in right-wing hallucinations.

    🤣

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  • [–] 36 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (4 children)

    Yea like wtf is “woke mania”?

    They only ever heard of it in 2020 because that’s when they were told to hate it.

    I guess I’ve been “woke” since the 90s, but I’ve always just called it, “not being a fucking shithead”

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    [–] 80 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    You were a hateful bigot but are upset you aren't immune to the bigotry you fuel is all this article says.

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  • [–] 65 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    "I found that while I supported my own rights as a sexual minority, I did not support the rights of other minorities whom I was not apart of"

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  • [–] 64 points 4 months ago* (8 children)

    This person needs to develop self-awareness: why is it only becoming a problem when it affects her directly?

    Her issue doesn’t affect me at all but I still want to do the right thing. And I would never vote for Trump because it was pretty clear he wouldn’t do the right thing, in many human right and quality of life scenarios

    (Plus he had a long history as a con man from before he ran for election, before he paid for his sleazy reality show to reset his reputation: I’m still confused how people could fall for this)

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    [–] 63 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Reid is a true American: it only matters once she herself is negatively affected.

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    [–] 58 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    So they are a racist lesbian. Got it

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    [–] 54 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    99% of American politics makes sense once you understand that MAGA = Narcissist.

    That's how black/gay/whatever person ends up MAGA. Their narcissism is stronger than their cultural/racial/whatever identity.

    The choices they make, the way propaganda is able to work on them, the evil shit they can talk themselves into supporting? It's all fueled by narcissism.

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    [–] 49 points 4 months ago

    TL;DR: fuckwad TERF gets what everyone else saw coming.

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  • [–] 45 points 4 months ago*

    I was ok hating minorities, but when they turned on my fellow lesbians and I, I done got upset!

    Jesus fucking Christ these fucking people

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    [–] 44 points 4 months ago

    As a 29-year-old lesbian engaged to be married, this turn of events is personal for me. And it may be one I helped contribute to.

    No. You absolutey and whole-heartedly helped contribute to it.

    I worked toward what I believed — and still believe — to be true. I still oppose radical gender ideology and Critical Race Theory in schools. I still believe that biological males shouldn’t compete in women’s sports or be housed in women’s prisons. But I will not stand by while LGBT rights are legislated away.

    Human Rights belong to all humans, you racist TERF.

    Reid Newton, from the bottom of my heart: I hope your life goes as well as you treat trans people.

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  • [–] 42 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Now the hate machine is coming for me and that’s not fair!

    "It was fair when the hate machine was coming for other people but it's not fair when it's coming for meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!"

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    [–] 41 points 4 months ago*

    "I'm conservative so I can force everyone else to live by my rules. How dare those other conservatives try to do the same thing to me!"

    The stupidity of these people is fucking painful.

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  • [–] 40 points 4 months ago* (5 children)

    When the “woke” mania swept the country in 2020, I took a step back and reevaluated where I stood and why I stood there. To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on a number of issues. I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory.

    Didn't make it very far into the article; I had to stop reading right there. I can't handle this much ignorance and bigotry. What a fucking clown. 🤡

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    [–] 39 points 4 months ago

    So the tldr here is that a lesbian TERF has discovered that once the rights of others that they were fine with being trampled upon had been stripped away, the people they chose to side with suddenly turned on them.

    Something something frog and scorpion in a river...

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  • [–] 36 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    But I will not stand by while LGBT rights are legislated away.

    coming right after

    I still believe that biological males shouldn’t compete in women’s sports or be housed in women’s prisons.

    might sound silly, but they're being truthful. They are not standing by while T rights are legislated away, they actively support it.

    Perchance this person would prefer it being LGB instead

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    [–] 36 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Not gonna sugarcoat it, come collect your award. Dipshit.

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    [–] 29 points 4 months ago

    None of that shit has anything to do with running a country. That's why you shouldn't have been backing it.

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  • [–] 28 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory.

    Never get tired of the "This Far And No Further" civil libertarian.

    My personal circumstances always demand a socially protected designation. But everyone who isn't me? Idk, they seem extremist and scary.

    Today, some of those same attorneys I worked with are advocating for my right to marry my fiancée to be stripped away.

    Well, but of course. Because it's "This Far And No Further" for them, too.

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  • [–] 27 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    An exert from this sites "about" page

    In the liberal West, a clear majority of people support LGBT rights. However, many are turned off by extreme rhetoric that supports authoritarian policy proposals. They are alienated by a vocal minority of radical activists who falsely claim to speak for the LGBT community. In this respect, QM stands up for that silent majority against extremists of all persuasions.

    In short: Terfs

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    [–] 27 points 4 months ago

    Get rekt, terf

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  • [–] 26 points 4 months ago

    Proof that membership in one out group isn't an indicator of an ally.

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  • [–] 22 points 4 months ago

    Many will say I should have seen this coming — that the right has and always will be against LGBT rights. And maybe there’s some truth to that. But that just wasn’t my experience. I was met with open arms by this messy coalition of ex-Democrats and lifelong Republicans, many of whom still support me and my right to marry. I found a community committed to reason and truth. Perhaps I’m simply realizing that there are fewer of us than I originally thought. The radical right is on the warpath against liberalism, trampling centrists, libertarians, and reasonable ring-wingers in the process. Ultimately, I don’t regret my decision. I worked toward what I believed — and still believe — to be true. I still oppose radical gender ideology and Critical Race Theory in schools. I still believe that biological males shouldn’t compete in women’s sports or be housed in women’s prisons. But I will not stand by while LGBT rights are legislated away.

    Read: "The only rights that should be protected are mine."

    There must be a path to redemption, but this one ain't on it.

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  • [–] 21 points 4 months ago

    What a fucking dumbass.

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