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[–] 90 points 7 months ago (3 children)

It's common to advise young people that Working hard and grinding when you are young, then having relatively calm and relaxation life for the rest of the life.

I think the relaxation never comes, if you work to death right now then still there is a pretty good chance you would be doing same 10 years from now. I believe ther should be balance between work and life no matter what age.

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  • [–] 33 points 7 months ago

    Also working hard doesn't get you anywhere. You have to also be an asshole that claws your way out of the bottom of the bucket of crabs.

    There's so many really good hard workers at dead end jobs that get treated like shit.

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  • [–] [S] 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

    About relaxation. I've found that I can't relax untill I've chilled for 2 weeks. Until then I have a wheel in my head that just won't stop spinning. But after that 2 weeks I transform.

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  • [–] 48 points 7 months ago (1 child)
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    [–] 44 points 7 months ago (6 children)

    That "growth" is inherently a good thing to do and if you aren't trying to grow as a person everyday then you're not living 'correctly'

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    Excuse my curiosity. Do you think learning and experiencing new things is not an important aspect of life? Or maybe you just have a different definition of growth than me?

    A life without would be stagnant and boring to me.

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago* (1 child)

    I believe where we differ is the degree. I do still learn new things for fun and whatnot, but if there is ever a time I am NOT doing that (besides work, sleep, or helping society as a whole in some other way), I've been conditioned to feel guilty. Like, if I'm not growing at all times, then I am personally spitting on the graves of all my ancestors

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    [–] 40 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    Cynicism isn't inherently more mature than believing that things can be made better. For a lot of people "everything is fucked, nothing matters" is a way of absolving themselves from the responsibility and personal risk involved in actively trying to make the world a better place.

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  • [–] 8 points 7 months ago

    I agree with this. People think being pessimistic is more realistic than being optimistic. They think spinning things as negative is automatically more realistic than the positive spin. In reality, realism sees both sides and adjusts one's behaviour to make the best out of everything

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  • [–] 40 points 7 months ago (11 children)
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    [–] 29 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (3 children)

    That attention span exists as a relevant concept and that people are ruining it with technology.

    If our attentiveness is struggling it is undoubtedly because life is harder and crueler these days.

    Our attention, if we are being treated humanely and sustainability by the societal conditions around us, is fine (we aren't though, this being the issue).

    edit Same thing with all the "kids these days" things about kids not being able to focus, being a kid these days has got to feel hopeless in a million ways that are too crushing to focus on not the least of which are the adults around you condescending your fears of the future even as they destroy it.

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago (9 children)

    life is harder and crueler these days.

    I think you just found the popular belief that I disagree with.

    Compared to most of human history, life now is pretty good. This article uses childhood mortality (globally 4.4% versus 50% for most of human history) to make the point. There's still lots of room to improve - the EU has a tenth the global average - but humanity has made incredible progress on that front over the past two centuries.

    Looking at a smaller time scale, the human development index is trending upward everywhere since 1990.

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  • [–] 16 points 7 months ago*

    I don't think it's that life is hard or less hard... I think it's that it's lost its meaning and reasoning.

    Like farming and hunting gave reason. Being able to buy a home by working gave a reason... Etc.

    But now for many people they just basically work for other people and eat shitty food and sleep. Nothing really comes back to them...

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    [–] 26 points 7 months ago (9 children)

    I disagree with the belief that all police officers are automatically bad people

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  • [–] 15 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    A friend of mine is a cop & a nice guy. I asked him why the hell he became a cop of all things & he said "this way, I know there's at least one cop in existence who's not a racist asshole."

    I countered with "Oh, so you're just a regular asshole, then?" An he said "No sir; I am an ass hat. An asshole is an ass the whole time. If people are cool, I'm cool with them, but if someone wants to be an ass, I can put my ass hat on to match their energy."

    I can respect that.

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  • [–] 11 points 7 months ago

    One of my friends was a rural police officer, which I didn't know. Dude is super friendly and queer. Unfortunately he had a lot of terribly sad stories of AD&D and DUIs. He finally called it quits when one woman rode up an industrial garage door to impress her friend and got lethally caught in it. Found her friend holding her legs to try and save her. Too many terrible things happened to nice but terribly misguided (or drunk) people.

    I think that job hurt his heart.

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    [–] 25 points 7 months ago (7 children)

    People argue back and forth whether capitalism or socialism/communism is a superior system and they are all wrong. Those concepts are just tools. Saying one economic system applies to all situations is as silly as saying the only tool you need to build a house is a hammer.

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    [–] 23 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    I think lots of people believe that the ends can justify the means.

    But to me, that expression means the same thing as, "Whatever causes a good outcome must not be bad." And I not only disagree with it, I don't even think it makes sense.

    I heard a story about a guy who was stabbed in a mugging and during surgery for the stabbing, found out that he had cancer, which saved his life.

    But nobody is going to go to the judge during the mugger's trial, and say that his decision to stab the guy was "justified," and so he should be released to stab again with his completely justified stabbing history.

    No, the things that are justifiable are those which are good and informed actions. You can't justify bad or ignorant actions simply because of luck.

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    [–] 18 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    That GUIs of FOSS applications are less easily usable than GUIs of proprietary software.

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  • [–] 9 points 7 months ago

    Windows 11 royally ruined their context menus even when I was still using it, since I was a Windows user since I can remember.

    “Less usable” often means “not used to it” since every application has a learning curve. There are some design standards, sure, but the only way to get used to anything is practice.

    Also, a lot of FOSS lets you customize a good chunk of the GUI and shortcuts!

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    [–] 16 points 7 months ago (8 children)

    that sex is binary or immutable. for anyone that believes this, get on HRT for a year and tell me if you still feel like your sex is identical to what you started out with

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    [–] 15 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    Pick literally any religion.

    Pick literally any belief.

    That.

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    [–] 14 points 7 months ago (4 children)
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    [–] 12 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    That there is a correct way to live or that objective morality exists

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    [–] 9 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    That a hot dog is not a taco

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    [–] 9 points 7 months ago (5 children)

    That the cereal should be poured before the milk.

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