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Getting more than you bargained for (slrpnk.net)
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If you're lucky, you'll only get me talking about glacial surficial geology

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[–] 74 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Well, I found my manic pixie dream girl. I would absolutely would love to talk about Teuchitlán.

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  • [–] 32 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    Also my dream single serving bus friend? I'm not trying to date anyone but I am trying to subscribe for more mesoamerican archeology facts, especially if I can ask clarifying questions along the way.

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  • [–] 14 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    I think part of the point here is going over people's heads. She used her hyperfixation to confuse and bore the man to deflect any opportunity for him to flirt with her or ask her out until she was able to leave.

    Everyone saying "jokes on you, this bus girl is so my type" would also have their ear talked off and never given the opportunity to ask her out.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    Maybe I'm naive, but I want to think that plenty of people actually stoked about that kind of situation would rather ask to elaborate on the West Mexico civilization instead.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago*

    Yeah, like I'd love to talk to this girl about this stuff if she wanted to talk about it, regardless of if she was interested in dating me or not, but that doesn't seem to be the case here. She was doing it to run him off

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago (3 children)

    Just don't lock anyone's knees, and use the appropriate dating spaces? Because strangers don't want to talk to you on the ride, it is one of the most anti-social places on Earth.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    use the appropriate dating spaces

    So, as someone who is terified to approach someone literally anywhere, what are the "appropriate dating spaces" now a days?

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

    Unironically the answer seems to be mainly "don't." I'm with you (I hate making people feel uncomfortable personally, but it shakes out the same) and have been trying to make sense of it, so far I've got:

    Bars: OK

    Dating apps: OK

    Work: Right out don't even think about it. This includes any combination of worker/customer, worker/worker, and even customer/customer. Women supposedly don't like to be asked out in those situations.

    And then you'll hear men say "go to the gym" and women say "I don't like being asked out at the gym" so that seems off limits unless you're seeking men.

    Common advice is to "find a hobby" but women hate being asked out while they're just trying to do their hobbies as well according to them. Ok so then "you don't ask them out there, you become friends and hope they'll set you up with a single friend." It also necessitates a hobby that isn't solitary, which just isn't everyone's cup of tea.

    So basically the best I've got so far seems to be "drink more, discard online privacy, or pray."

    But then also "just ask, be polite, and take no for an answer, if they get offended at that, that's their problem" has been thrown around, and figuratively praying to a god I don't believe in hasn't been working so far, so I'm considering trying that out.

    Actually, ironically, while I made the joke that "make friends and then hope they set you up with someone" = "pray," another piece of advice is "meet them in church," which supposedly works real well, but I don't think lying about my religion is a good foundation to a happy relationship, personally. If you however have no such compunction or are religious, that may work.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    Hard disagree. What are "appropriate dating spaces"?

    Pretty sure lots of the people would love to have something serendipitous happen outside of the boring designations society expects.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    This isn't even outside of what society expects. Striking up conversations with people is normal and human!

    There are bad ways to do it, of course. In this case, I'd be rattled by the knee tap. But a little conversation is fine, and if they aren't responding enthusiastically you can just drop it.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    What am I supposed to do? Be that creep that just hits on women? 😭

    I can't imagine that it's not a game friend being a date, or friend of a friend who recommended me.

    Or one of those dating servers/forums.

    Everything else feels creepy.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    Dude OP was describing was striking up a conversation with another person. Sometimes that becomes a date, sometimes it doesn't. It's a nice way to go about every day. You don't need an ulterior motive. If you can imagine having the conversation with a man in the same scenario, then it's fine IMO.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 months ago

    What am I supposed to do? Be that creep that just hits on women? 😭

    I can't imagine that it's not a game friend being a date, or friend of a friend who recommended me.

    Or one of those dating servers/forums.

    Everything else feels creepy.

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