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[–] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works 12 points 2 years ago (2 children) How about instead we train boys that they do not own women, nor do they have a right to demand women obey them. Teach your children well. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Fraylor@lemm.ee 32 points 2 years ago (1 child) Both. Both is an option because you can't train the monster out of some people. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -29 points 2 years ago (6 children) No. Girls/women should not be held accountable for what boys/men do. Teach your sons better. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 12 child comments replies: [–] Account5600@lemmy.world 20 points 2 years ago Yeah and we shouldn't wear seatbelts because we shouldn't be held accountable for what some other drunken idiot does on the road Yeah, maybe you're right, but you need to accept the reality that you can't control the actions of others and that you should still take precautionary measures to protect yourself permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 19 points 2 years ago (3 children) Why are we pretending that this is just an inherent quality that needs to be taught out rather than a serious deviation from the norm? "Teach people not to murder" yeah, uh, we do, and unreasonable people still murder. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] MrLuemasG@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Also if your only solution is "everybody SHOULD do X", you've already failed. Reality is that we are so far away from everybody doing the "right" thing that refusing to take any basic precautions is just setting somebody up to get hurt. It's like telling people they don't need to bring bear spray on hikes in a bear infested wood because the bears shouldn't try to hurt you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (2 children) It's disingenuous to compare a wild animal without reasoning ability with a male human. If you have the impulse control of a bear, there is something medically wrong with you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] dabu@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago I am pretty sure there are people with the impulse control of a bear. These are probably not the same people discussing these matters over Internet permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works -1 points 2 years ago Yes, and there are plenty of people out there with things medically wrong with them which will cause them to act out violently. It's only wise to prepare for a potential run-in with one of these people. Whether they "should" act out against you or not. permalink fedilink source parent [–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world -4 points 2 years ago Because it IS enough men who participate in these behaviors to qualify as more than an aberration. permalink fedilink source parent [–] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -4 points 2 years ago (2 children) Unreasonable murderers are not the norm tho. Men thinking they can control women is far more common, and the cure for that is parents teaching their kids that shit won't be tolerated. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Drigo@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 years ago Yeah, but I don't trust other parents to actually teach their sons that. So I will still have to teach my daughters to defend themselves against those kind of people. permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago Lol. Yeah. I was more comparing murder to rape. I don't know where you live, but where I live, men raping women is not normalized. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Fraylor@lemm.ee 10 points 2 years ago Reading comprehension, try and find some. permalink fedilink source parent [–] FinnFooted@lemmy.world 9 points 2 years ago* I agree with the sentiment, some people won't be raising their sons right. And, while we need to push those people, we also need to be real about the world we live in otherwise girls and women are going to get hurt. There are bad people. telling them to be better won't make them be better, won't make them go away, and won't make you safe from them. Its about as useful as thoughts and prayers. permalink fedilink source parent [–] OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 years ago Preparing your kids for the dangers of the world is not "holding them accountable." permalink fedilink source parent [–] Crazypartypony@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago Some people have mental health issues of various forms, learning disabilities, traumatic brain injury.... there are lots of other reasons you should still be able to defend yourself. The training from other parents doesn't negate the threat. Don't advocate for being helpless. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 17 points 2 years ago (2 children) Because we can’t train other people’s kids- but we can train our own. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -4 points 2 years ago (2 children) Exactly. So parents should train their sons to not be rapey manipulative violent assholes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] rbesfe@lemmy.ca 12 points 2 years ago* Wrap it up everyone, we've stopped rapists by... checks notes being condescending about it on the internet permalink fedilink source parent [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 years ago But you can’t guarantee they’re doing it- so train your daughter to kick some ass. And for the record, I was never trained to not be a rapey manipulative asshole, and I’m none of those things, so let’s stop with the blanket statements. permalink fedilink source parent [+] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -11 points 2 years ago (2 children) It's amazing what you can do if you try. Did you know that modern society has an entire profession based around teaching other people's sons? Like, adults learn for years how to do this, and then we pay those people to teach our sons and everyone else's sons too. Most countries even make it a legal requirement to be taught by someone! It's amazing. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 years ago (1 child) I’m not even bothering with this. It’s too fucking stupid. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) Yes, the American school system really is. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Fitting username. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago So is yours permalink fedilink source parent [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) I'm so glad the public school system has completely eliminated rape permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -2 points 2 years ago (1 child) You mean because they made it illegal to talk about sex in schools? Yeah, I'm sure that's not related at all permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago (1 child) I thought you said the existence of schools had eliminated rape, which is it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) No, I said teachers exist, so a lack of parenting shouldn't be the issue. The problem isn't "parents suck", the problem is "we have a way to address this problem, and we are actively stopping it from being effective". permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (1 child) The problem is "rapists exist", one of many partial solutions is "teach girls to defend themselves". It's really weird that you seem to think there's only one path forward and seem more interested in assigning blame than lessening the impact of the issue. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago I think you have me confused with a different lemmitor. Everything I've said has been the exact opposite of what you just wrote. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Fraylor@lemm.ee 32 points 2 years ago (1 child) Both. Both is an option because you can't train the monster out of some people. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -29 points 2 years ago (6 children) No. Girls/women should not be held accountable for what boys/men do. Teach your sons better. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 12 child comments replies: [–] Account5600@lemmy.world 20 points 2 years ago Yeah and we shouldn't wear seatbelts because we shouldn't be held accountable for what some other drunken idiot does on the road Yeah, maybe you're right, but you need to accept the reality that you can't control the actions of others and that you should still take precautionary measures to protect yourself permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 19 points 2 years ago (3 children) Why are we pretending that this is just an inherent quality that needs to be taught out rather than a serious deviation from the norm? "Teach people not to murder" yeah, uh, we do, and unreasonable people still murder. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] MrLuemasG@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Also if your only solution is "everybody SHOULD do X", you've already failed. Reality is that we are so far away from everybody doing the "right" thing that refusing to take any basic precautions is just setting somebody up to get hurt. It's like telling people they don't need to bring bear spray on hikes in a bear infested wood because the bears shouldn't try to hurt you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (2 children) It's disingenuous to compare a wild animal without reasoning ability with a male human. If you have the impulse control of a bear, there is something medically wrong with you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] dabu@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago I am pretty sure there are people with the impulse control of a bear. These are probably not the same people discussing these matters over Internet permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works -1 points 2 years ago Yes, and there are plenty of people out there with things medically wrong with them which will cause them to act out violently. It's only wise to prepare for a potential run-in with one of these people. Whether they "should" act out against you or not. permalink fedilink source parent [–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world -4 points 2 years ago Because it IS enough men who participate in these behaviors to qualify as more than an aberration. permalink fedilink source parent [–] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -4 points 2 years ago (2 children) Unreasonable murderers are not the norm tho. Men thinking they can control women is far more common, and the cure for that is parents teaching their kids that shit won't be tolerated. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Drigo@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 years ago Yeah, but I don't trust other parents to actually teach their sons that. So I will still have to teach my daughters to defend themselves against those kind of people. permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago Lol. Yeah. I was more comparing murder to rape. I don't know where you live, but where I live, men raping women is not normalized. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Fraylor@lemm.ee 10 points 2 years ago Reading comprehension, try and find some. permalink fedilink source parent [–] FinnFooted@lemmy.world 9 points 2 years ago* I agree with the sentiment, some people won't be raising their sons right. And, while we need to push those people, we also need to be real about the world we live in otherwise girls and women are going to get hurt. There are bad people. telling them to be better won't make them be better, won't make them go away, and won't make you safe from them. Its about as useful as thoughts and prayers. permalink fedilink source parent [–] OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 years ago Preparing your kids for the dangers of the world is not "holding them accountable." permalink fedilink source parent [–] Crazypartypony@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago Some people have mental health issues of various forms, learning disabilities, traumatic brain injury.... there are lots of other reasons you should still be able to defend yourself. The training from other parents doesn't negate the threat. Don't advocate for being helpless. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -29 points 2 years ago (6 children) No. Girls/women should not be held accountable for what boys/men do. Teach your sons better. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 12 child comments replies: [–] Account5600@lemmy.world 20 points 2 years ago Yeah and we shouldn't wear seatbelts because we shouldn't be held accountable for what some other drunken idiot does on the road Yeah, maybe you're right, but you need to accept the reality that you can't control the actions of others and that you should still take precautionary measures to protect yourself permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 19 points 2 years ago (3 children) Why are we pretending that this is just an inherent quality that needs to be taught out rather than a serious deviation from the norm? "Teach people not to murder" yeah, uh, we do, and unreasonable people still murder. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] MrLuemasG@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Also if your only solution is "everybody SHOULD do X", you've already failed. Reality is that we are so far away from everybody doing the "right" thing that refusing to take any basic precautions is just setting somebody up to get hurt. It's like telling people they don't need to bring bear spray on hikes in a bear infested wood because the bears shouldn't try to hurt you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (2 children) It's disingenuous to compare a wild animal without reasoning ability with a male human. If you have the impulse control of a bear, there is something medically wrong with you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] dabu@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago I am pretty sure there are people with the impulse control of a bear. These are probably not the same people discussing these matters over Internet permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works -1 points 2 years ago Yes, and there are plenty of people out there with things medically wrong with them which will cause them to act out violently. It's only wise to prepare for a potential run-in with one of these people. Whether they "should" act out against you or not. permalink fedilink source parent [–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world -4 points 2 years ago Because it IS enough men who participate in these behaviors to qualify as more than an aberration. permalink fedilink source parent [–] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -4 points 2 years ago (2 children) Unreasonable murderers are not the norm tho. Men thinking they can control women is far more common, and the cure for that is parents teaching their kids that shit won't be tolerated. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Drigo@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 years ago Yeah, but I don't trust other parents to actually teach their sons that. So I will still have to teach my daughters to defend themselves against those kind of people. permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago Lol. Yeah. I was more comparing murder to rape. I don't know where you live, but where I live, men raping women is not normalized. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Fraylor@lemm.ee 10 points 2 years ago Reading comprehension, try and find some. permalink fedilink source parent [–] FinnFooted@lemmy.world 9 points 2 years ago* I agree with the sentiment, some people won't be raising their sons right. And, while we need to push those people, we also need to be real about the world we live in otherwise girls and women are going to get hurt. There are bad people. telling them to be better won't make them be better, won't make them go away, and won't make you safe from them. Its about as useful as thoughts and prayers. permalink fedilink source parent [–] OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 years ago Preparing your kids for the dangers of the world is not "holding them accountable." permalink fedilink source parent [–] Crazypartypony@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago Some people have mental health issues of various forms, learning disabilities, traumatic brain injury.... there are lots of other reasons you should still be able to defend yourself. The training from other parents doesn't negate the threat. Don't advocate for being helpless. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Account5600@lemmy.world 20 points 2 years ago Yeah and we shouldn't wear seatbelts because we shouldn't be held accountable for what some other drunken idiot does on the road Yeah, maybe you're right, but you need to accept the reality that you can't control the actions of others and that you should still take precautionary measures to protect yourself permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 19 points 2 years ago (3 children) Why are we pretending that this is just an inherent quality that needs to be taught out rather than a serious deviation from the norm? "Teach people not to murder" yeah, uh, we do, and unreasonable people still murder. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] MrLuemasG@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Also if your only solution is "everybody SHOULD do X", you've already failed. Reality is that we are so far away from everybody doing the "right" thing that refusing to take any basic precautions is just setting somebody up to get hurt. It's like telling people they don't need to bring bear spray on hikes in a bear infested wood because the bears shouldn't try to hurt you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (2 children) It's disingenuous to compare a wild animal without reasoning ability with a male human. If you have the impulse control of a bear, there is something medically wrong with you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] dabu@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago I am pretty sure there are people with the impulse control of a bear. These are probably not the same people discussing these matters over Internet permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works -1 points 2 years ago Yes, and there are plenty of people out there with things medically wrong with them which will cause them to act out violently. It's only wise to prepare for a potential run-in with one of these people. Whether they "should" act out against you or not. permalink fedilink source parent [–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world -4 points 2 years ago Because it IS enough men who participate in these behaviors to qualify as more than an aberration. permalink fedilink source parent [–] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -4 points 2 years ago (2 children) Unreasonable murderers are not the norm tho. Men thinking they can control women is far more common, and the cure for that is parents teaching their kids that shit won't be tolerated. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Drigo@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 years ago Yeah, but I don't trust other parents to actually teach their sons that. So I will still have to teach my daughters to defend themselves against those kind of people. permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago Lol. Yeah. I was more comparing murder to rape. I don't know where you live, but where I live, men raping women is not normalized. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] MrLuemasG@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Also if your only solution is "everybody SHOULD do X", you've already failed. Reality is that we are so far away from everybody doing the "right" thing that refusing to take any basic precautions is just setting somebody up to get hurt. It's like telling people they don't need to bring bear spray on hikes in a bear infested wood because the bears shouldn't try to hurt you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (2 children) It's disingenuous to compare a wild animal without reasoning ability with a male human. If you have the impulse control of a bear, there is something medically wrong with you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] dabu@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago I am pretty sure there are people with the impulse control of a bear. These are probably not the same people discussing these matters over Internet permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works -1 points 2 years ago Yes, and there are plenty of people out there with things medically wrong with them which will cause them to act out violently. It's only wise to prepare for a potential run-in with one of these people. Whether they "should" act out against you or not. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 1 point 2 years ago (2 children) It's disingenuous to compare a wild animal without reasoning ability with a male human. If you have the impulse control of a bear, there is something medically wrong with you. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] dabu@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago I am pretty sure there are people with the impulse control of a bear. These are probably not the same people discussing these matters over Internet permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works -1 points 2 years ago Yes, and there are plenty of people out there with things medically wrong with them which will cause them to act out violently. It's only wise to prepare for a potential run-in with one of these people. Whether they "should" act out against you or not. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] dabu@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago I am pretty sure there are people with the impulse control of a bear. These are probably not the same people discussing these matters over Internet permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works -1 points 2 years ago Yes, and there are plenty of people out there with things medically wrong with them which will cause them to act out violently. It's only wise to prepare for a potential run-in with one of these people. Whether they "should" act out against you or not. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world -4 points 2 years ago Because it IS enough men who participate in these behaviors to qualify as more than an aberration. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -4 points 2 years ago (2 children) Unreasonable murderers are not the norm tho. Men thinking they can control women is far more common, and the cure for that is parents teaching their kids that shit won't be tolerated. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Drigo@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 years ago Yeah, but I don't trust other parents to actually teach their sons that. So I will still have to teach my daughters to defend themselves against those kind of people. permalink fedilink source parent [–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago Lol. Yeah. I was more comparing murder to rape. I don't know where you live, but where I live, men raping women is not normalized. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Drigo@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 years ago Yeah, but I don't trust other parents to actually teach their sons that. So I will still have to teach my daughters to defend themselves against those kind of people. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago Lol. Yeah. I was more comparing murder to rape. I don't know where you live, but where I live, men raping women is not normalized. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Fraylor@lemm.ee 10 points 2 years ago Reading comprehension, try and find some. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] FinnFooted@lemmy.world 9 points 2 years ago* I agree with the sentiment, some people won't be raising their sons right. And, while we need to push those people, we also need to be real about the world we live in otherwise girls and women are going to get hurt. There are bad people. telling them to be better won't make them be better, won't make them go away, and won't make you safe from them. Its about as useful as thoughts and prayers. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 years ago Preparing your kids for the dangers of the world is not "holding them accountable." permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Crazypartypony@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago Some people have mental health issues of various forms, learning disabilities, traumatic brain injury.... there are lots of other reasons you should still be able to defend yourself. The training from other parents doesn't negate the threat. Don't advocate for being helpless. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 17 points 2 years ago (2 children) Because we can’t train other people’s kids- but we can train our own. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -4 points 2 years ago (2 children) Exactly. So parents should train their sons to not be rapey manipulative violent assholes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] rbesfe@lemmy.ca 12 points 2 years ago* Wrap it up everyone, we've stopped rapists by... checks notes being condescending about it on the internet permalink fedilink source parent [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 years ago But you can’t guarantee they’re doing it- so train your daughter to kick some ass. And for the record, I was never trained to not be a rapey manipulative asshole, and I’m none of those things, so let’s stop with the blanket statements. permalink fedilink source parent [+] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -11 points 2 years ago (2 children) It's amazing what you can do if you try. Did you know that modern society has an entire profession based around teaching other people's sons? Like, adults learn for years how to do this, and then we pay those people to teach our sons and everyone else's sons too. Most countries even make it a legal requirement to be taught by someone! It's amazing. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 years ago (1 child) I’m not even bothering with this. It’s too fucking stupid. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) Yes, the American school system really is. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Fitting username. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago So is yours permalink fedilink source parent [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) I'm so glad the public school system has completely eliminated rape permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -2 points 2 years ago (1 child) You mean because they made it illegal to talk about sex in schools? Yeah, I'm sure that's not related at all permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago (1 child) I thought you said the existence of schools had eliminated rape, which is it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) No, I said teachers exist, so a lack of parenting shouldn't be the issue. The problem isn't "parents suck", the problem is "we have a way to address this problem, and we are actively stopping it from being effective". permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (1 child) The problem is "rapists exist", one of many partial solutions is "teach girls to defend themselves". It's really weird that you seem to think there's only one path forward and seem more interested in assigning blame than lessening the impact of the issue. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago I think you have me confused with a different lemmitor. Everything I've said has been the exact opposite of what you just wrote. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] girlfreddy@sh.itjust.works -4 points 2 years ago (2 children) Exactly. So parents should train their sons to not be rapey manipulative violent assholes. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] rbesfe@lemmy.ca 12 points 2 years ago* Wrap it up everyone, we've stopped rapists by... checks notes being condescending about it on the internet permalink fedilink source parent [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 years ago But you can’t guarantee they’re doing it- so train your daughter to kick some ass. And for the record, I was never trained to not be a rapey manipulative asshole, and I’m none of those things, so let’s stop with the blanket statements. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] rbesfe@lemmy.ca 12 points 2 years ago* Wrap it up everyone, we've stopped rapists by... checks notes being condescending about it on the internet permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 years ago But you can’t guarantee they’re doing it- so train your daughter to kick some ass. And for the record, I was never trained to not be a rapey manipulative asshole, and I’m none of those things, so let’s stop with the blanket statements. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -11 points 2 years ago (2 children) It's amazing what you can do if you try. Did you know that modern society has an entire profession based around teaching other people's sons? Like, adults learn for years how to do this, and then we pay those people to teach our sons and everyone else's sons too. Most countries even make it a legal requirement to be taught by someone! It's amazing. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 years ago (1 child) I’m not even bothering with this. It’s too fucking stupid. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) Yes, the American school system really is. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Fitting username. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago So is yours permalink fedilink source parent [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) I'm so glad the public school system has completely eliminated rape permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -2 points 2 years ago (1 child) You mean because they made it illegal to talk about sex in schools? Yeah, I'm sure that's not related at all permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago (1 child) I thought you said the existence of schools had eliminated rape, which is it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) No, I said teachers exist, so a lack of parenting shouldn't be the issue. The problem isn't "parents suck", the problem is "we have a way to address this problem, and we are actively stopping it from being effective". permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (1 child) The problem is "rapists exist", one of many partial solutions is "teach girls to defend themselves". It's really weird that you seem to think there's only one path forward and seem more interested in assigning blame than lessening the impact of the issue. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago I think you have me confused with a different lemmitor. Everything I've said has been the exact opposite of what you just wrote. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 years ago (1 child) I’m not even bothering with this. It’s too fucking stupid. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) Yes, the American school system really is. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Fitting username. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago So is yours permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 child) Yes, the American school system really is. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Fitting username. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago So is yours permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) Fitting username. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago So is yours permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago So is yours permalink fedilink source parent
[–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 1 point 2 years ago (1 child) I'm so glad the public school system has completely eliminated rape permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -2 points 2 years ago (1 child) You mean because they made it illegal to talk about sex in schools? Yeah, I'm sure that's not related at all permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago (1 child) I thought you said the existence of schools had eliminated rape, which is it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) No, I said teachers exist, so a lack of parenting shouldn't be the issue. The problem isn't "parents suck", the problem is "we have a way to address this problem, and we are actively stopping it from being effective". permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (1 child) The problem is "rapists exist", one of many partial solutions is "teach girls to defend themselves". It's really weird that you seem to think there's only one path forward and seem more interested in assigning blame than lessening the impact of the issue. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago I think you have me confused with a different lemmitor. Everything I've said has been the exact opposite of what you just wrote. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -2 points 2 years ago (1 child) You mean because they made it illegal to talk about sex in schools? Yeah, I'm sure that's not related at all permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago (1 child) I thought you said the existence of schools had eliminated rape, which is it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) No, I said teachers exist, so a lack of parenting shouldn't be the issue. The problem isn't "parents suck", the problem is "we have a way to address this problem, and we are actively stopping it from being effective". permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (1 child) The problem is "rapists exist", one of many partial solutions is "teach girls to defend themselves". It's really weird that you seem to think there's only one path forward and seem more interested in assigning blame than lessening the impact of the issue. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago I think you have me confused with a different lemmitor. Everything I've said has been the exact opposite of what you just wrote. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago (1 child) I thought you said the existence of schools had eliminated rape, which is it? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) No, I said teachers exist, so a lack of parenting shouldn't be the issue. The problem isn't "parents suck", the problem is "we have a way to address this problem, and we are actively stopping it from being effective". permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (1 child) The problem is "rapists exist", one of many partial solutions is "teach girls to defend themselves". It's really weird that you seem to think there's only one path forward and seem more interested in assigning blame than lessening the impact of the issue. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago I think you have me confused with a different lemmitor. Everything I've said has been the exact opposite of what you just wrote. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago (1 child) No, I said teachers exist, so a lack of parenting shouldn't be the issue. The problem isn't "parents suck", the problem is "we have a way to address this problem, and we are actively stopping it from being effective". permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (1 child) The problem is "rapists exist", one of many partial solutions is "teach girls to defend themselves". It's really weird that you seem to think there's only one path forward and seem more interested in assigning blame than lessening the impact of the issue. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago I think you have me confused with a different lemmitor. Everything I've said has been the exact opposite of what you just wrote. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago* (1 child) The problem is "rapists exist", one of many partial solutions is "teach girls to defend themselves". It's really weird that you seem to think there's only one path forward and seem more interested in assigning blame than lessening the impact of the issue. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago I think you have me confused with a different lemmitor. Everything I've said has been the exact opposite of what you just wrote. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 0 points 2 years ago I think you have me confused with a different lemmitor. Everything I've said has been the exact opposite of what you just wrote. permalink fedilink source parent