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[–] 56 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (8 children)

If you have daughters please train them in self defense. Best to train it young and encourage it as a hobby into adulthood. It’s better than weapons and more effective. Breaking an assailant’s arm comes with way less PTSD than shooting someone.

Edit: I am a fan of living a self reliant life. It’s a very wholesome and well rounded way to live. Carl Sagan promoted it and it is a solid way to actually live free rather than under the falsities of the self proclaimed “main stream” portion of society. Self Defense is a major part of that. Self defense also does not mean being a master of it, just enough to get away safely.

Edit2: Yea this post isn’t victim blaming. There are many benefits to self defense including confidence building. You are literally empowering your kids. Idk why people don’t like doing that except to control them. Again, teaching self defense isn’t teaching violence. If you don’t know the difference it would be enlightening to discover it.

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  • [–] 33 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I don't disagree but I think it's a lot easier for me to teach my son not to be a rapist. At 7 he understands boundaries. It's not hard.

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  • [–] 35 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    Yeah... too bad you can't teach other people's sons not to be rapists - they're the ones you've gotta worry about

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  • [–] 8 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Better yet we do both. Hell we should also be spreading awareness and providing programs to help support people to prevent and recover from incidents like this. It's a complex social issue so it should be tackled from all directions simultaneously

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago

    Let's also not forget that a certain percentage of people are simply fucked up beyond repair, no matter how they are raised.

    So teaching women basic self defense is absolutely the way to go.

    I want to live in a world, where this piece of shit tries to rape someone and ends up with a broken nose, arm and exploded nutsack.

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  • [+] -8 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    It's amazing what you can do if you try.

    Did you know that modern society has an entire profession based around teaching other people's sons? Like, adults learn for years how to do this, and then we pay those people to teach our sons and everyone else's sons too. Most countries even make it a legal requirement to be taught by someone!

    It's amazing.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    You're presenting that as a gotcha moment? Just wait until you realize... that schools already teach you not to rape. Almost like a baseline level of functioning in society... requires you to be aware of basic rules like don't rape or murder?

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  • [–] -2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    The same schools that fire teachers for talking about sex ed? Yeah, you have no idea.

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  • [–] 12 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    How about instead we train boys that they do not own women, nor do they have a right to demand women obey them.

    Teach your children well.

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  • [–] 17 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Because we can’t train other people’s kids- but we can train our own.

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  • [–] -4 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Exactly. So parents should train their sons to not be rapey manipulative violent assholes.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago

    But you can’t guarantee they’re doing it- so train your daughter to kick some ass.

    And for the record, I was never trained to not be a rapey manipulative asshole, and I’m none of those things, so let’s stop with the blanket statements.

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  • [+] -11 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    It's amazing what you can do if you try.

    Did you know that modern society has an entire profession based around teaching other people's sons? Like, adults learn for years how to do this, and then we pay those people to teach our sons and everyone else's sons too. Most countries even make it a legal requirement to be taught by someone!

    It's amazing.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I’m not even bothering with this. It’s too fucking stupid.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    I'm so glad the public school system has completely eliminated rape

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  • [–] -2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    You mean because they made it illegal to talk about sex in schools?

    Yeah, I'm sure that's not related at all

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I thought you said the existence of schools had eliminated rape, which is it?

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  • [–] 0 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    No, I said teachers exist, so a lack of parenting shouldn't be the issue.

    The problem isn't "parents suck", the problem is "we have a way to address this problem, and we are actively stopping it from being effective".

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  • [–] 0 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    The problem is "rapists exist", one of many partial solutions is "teach girls to defend themselves". It's really weird that you seem to think there's only one path forward and seem more interested in assigning blame than lessening the impact of the issue.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 years ago

    I agree with this, but I also think it would be a good idea to teach them how to defend themselves with weapons as well. There are certain situations where legally it will be less of a problem for you if you just kill the threat. You don't want to end up paying your would-be rapists medical bills over some dumb technicality.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago* (1 child)

    My daughter has been learning defense since she was 8, went through different classes including MMA. She's such a sweet kid and runs away from danger, but she's got enough to fight with if it ever comes to it. Still wish I could follow her around looking mean everywhere she goes. But if a guy ever did this to her, I would deal with him myself.

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