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Neopronouns are not trolling in c/main@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] 13 points 2 years ago (3 children)

As Cishet white-ish person, who is only tangentially connected to this community IRL, but wants to be supportive, is there a definitive list of pronouns? It seems to me and many other people that if you just keep adding more and more, people get confused and or feel alienated and then some people get angry when confused, because they get frustrated and don't want to do the wrong thing.

I usually default to "they" unless absolutely told, because It seems that once it gets so individualized, things go a bit nuts. We may as well just abolish all pronouns and only use proper nouns.

Side question, I'm neurodiverse (diagnosed ADHD, probably a bit on the spectrum), I feel very very weird before coming out to people, especially at work, as I think it will be used against me. There are still places in this world that would hurt/imprison/kill non-cis, non-hetero people. With such an interconnected world, especially with those places, how does one handle it while also trying to keep being proud of your identity? Wouldn't putting neo pronouns in a profile open you up for targeting?

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    How long does it take for neurotypical (or just typical) people to get over a minor fight? (endlesstalk.org)
     

    Tldr: my wife and I get into verbal fights quite often (once a month or so) I get over it in an hour and it takes her days. Both of us think that the other's timeline isn't normal. What's typical/normal?

    I'm ADHD (my current therapist thinks it's AuDHD) so I'm prone to emotional deregulation and pretty crazy mood swings. I'm pretty sure my parents are somehow ND as well so I don't have the best basis. My wife is also ND, but it's audio processing not emotionally related

    My wife and I get into fights and arguments sometimes over petty stuff. I feel I hear her out but it's difficult for her to listen to me straight through as I tend to take a while to get to my point. She interrupts me a lot with either snide comments or questions that if she just waited a sec I'd answer. This leads me to getting frustrated and raising my voice and yelling, which gets her pissed off and raises her voice and suddenly we're in a shouting match.

    Eventually one of us gives up or realizes they're wrong and we end the fight and go to our separate (safe) areas.

    After about an hour I feel I'm back to normal and can talk about other things. (We usually have something we need to do with our kids or work or the house that we need to communicate on).

    My wife feels it takes her a day or two to come down from a fight so shes very short with me until that time, where I feel I can talk after an hour or so.... She feels that it's not normal to change in that short of time.

    What do people think?

    Hamas launches rocket attack on Tel Aviv for first time in months in c/globalnews@lemmy.zip
    [–] 1 point 2 years ago (1 child)

    You missed it. I'm talking from the pov of Israel, not Palestine.

    Hamas has it in their charter to destroy Israel and every other Jew in the world...

    "From the river to the sea" doesn't mean "hey Israel, get off our backs" it means death to Israel. And when has appeasement ever worked?

    You also never answered my question.

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    • Hamas launches rocket attack on Tel Aviv for first time in months in c/globalnews@lemmy.zip
    Hamas launches rocket attack on Tel Aviv for first time in months in c/globalnews@lemmy.zip
    [+] -9 points 2 years ago* (6 children)

    Question. If a group of people raped and kidnapped almost all the women in your family and the family of all your friends in front of you and killed or kidnapped almost all the men. Leaving you as one of the few people left. Would you kill an innocent child to get to the people who did and planned this if it was the only way, or just say, "oh well! Guess they can get away with it, I didn't want to be a monster...."?

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    • USA ADHDers. Anybody have luck getting their stimulants abroad? in c/adhd@lemmy.world
    Is texting not a conversation, or is it just me? in c/adhd@lemmy.world
    [–] 1 point 2 years ago

    It's not just you. I hate texting in general unless it's for work. Usually if I'm running around on errands or a nice walk, I end up getting a text response to someone from an hour ago, and it boils my nerves that I feel I need to respond.

    I'd rather be on a phone call to get all information in/out at once. Especially with wireless headset/earbuds

    Though my therapist thinks I'm AuDHD. So that gives credence to your asd worry

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    If we can ban trans medical procedures, why haven't we banned circumcision? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
    My real worry with Google's voyage into enshittification (thanks to Cory Doctorow @pluralistic the term) is YouTube. in c/technology@lemmy.ml
    Which album was a band's creative zenith/magnum opus before falling off? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
    [–] 5 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    More popular, more commercially successful, and more accessible to casual fans. Agreed.

    But for magnum opus, I gotta agree with the wall for a few reasons

    1. They made a movie out of it
    2. The ode to the intense para social relationships that revolve around stardom and how a truly crazy creative can take advantage of it in scary ways was not only true back then, but predictive of how much worse it would get in current time.
    3. DSotM always seemed like a lot of good ideas in an unordered list. I felt like they could be scrambled and the album would be similar, except for the first and last songs.. Meanwhile the wall tells a story of pain, alienation, search for meaning, lashing out, and then a quest for self-forgiveness.
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    • I'm really getting over the enshitification of the internet. in c/memes@lemmy.ml
    Abandon ship in c/reddit@lemmy.world
    if there's any of you that listening to music while smoking marijuana? in c/trees@lemmy.world
    [–] 2 points 2 years ago

    This is going to sound stereotypical, and I don't smoke often. But last time I had a good high going, the Grateful Dead album, "American Beauty", came on my music album shuffle and just instantly got me in the right mood.

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    How To Unmap/remap an album/tracks in Lidarr? (endlesstalk.org)
     

    HELP!!!

    I have three situations, all would be very helpful if I could manually update the mappings of individual files or albums. If this is the wrong sub/community, can you point me in the right directions?

    1. I have an album that i accidentally mapped to the wrong artist/album combination and now it won't let me change it because I also tagged it, even renaming doesn't help.
    2. I have an album where the 1st and 6th song switched during the mapping/renaming/tagging process and now, even if I rename the files and retag them manually using id3, both lidarr and plex think they're the wrong track
    3. I have an album that's not only a standalone album, but also a disc in a box set, I'd rather have it as part of the box set, but can't figure out how to unmap/remap the album to move it to under the box set, when I have the rest of the box set already set up properly

    Any help would be appreciated, thanks!

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    How did money work on deep space 9? (endlesstalk.org)
    submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by to c/startrek@startrek.website
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    Whenever there's a storyline with quark, they talk about money/latinum.

    I remember in one of the next gen episodes that there was discussion about money and Picard said something about how they've moved away from money.

    So do Starfleet get paid now?

    Update: thank you for the quick responses. From what I'm gathering the tldr is that the following is the answer

    • Ferengi love for money/not being a post scarcity society by design
    • Bajorans being so near their slavery times and not post scarcity yet
    • Quark creating an atmosphere of camaraderie/gambling/upgraded replicators/actual food

    All this requires some form of currency.

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    Do you basically get double taxed if you make non deductable contributions to a traditional ira? Why do it? (endlesstalk.org)
     

    In the US, if you make a lot, are covered by a work retirement account or you contribute to a Roth, you can't deduct traditional ira contributions right?

    So that money gets added to the rest of your traditional ira monies right? and then when you hit retirement age, you have to pay income level taxes on deductions on that already post tax money right?

    Why get taxed twice? What's the benefit? +Not being able to touch it til retirement age.

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