cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/49863704

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So my little sister displays clear signs of both Autistic and ADHD but refuse to look into it. She a teen-ish. Everyone suspects she is autistic, both my parents and my other sister but if were to use intensive language here a bit, I would say she is very childish for someone going to high school. There are other reasons that makes me think she is autistic(and has adhd)

Just yesterday she mentioned she finds skin texture disgusting, and has to focus on other features in a person's face and so gets distracted easily. She refuses to wear wet bathroom saddles. She is extremely touchy and clingy to both my mom and sister. She is stubborn as a well, always thinking she is in the right. She talks more like more like someone who learned to talk from just watching cartoons rather than other people. I could go on.

I admit, its probably my fault. I was more just pushy. I treated badly, telling her our father agrees with me and his word is law. I realise that doesn't she want the stigma, that I am basically insuring she never wants to look into it. Its not a disease or cancer, the excuse of tough love is not applicable here.

I will just have to drop it, but it hurts me that she has resources that I didn't have access to when I was her age.

I really think that I need therapy and my family also think so and tells me this in regular intervals.

But there are two main blockers with getting therapy:

• Extreme long waiting list's, estimated waiting times of 1-3 years
• I am so bad at doing stuff on time / arriving at appointment's, that this will fail any therapy where I have to arrive physically

I am thinking about getting online therapy, on a platform like for example BetterHelp, but I always hear bad things about these platforms.

Do anyone here as experience with such platforms? Do they keep the conversations private or sell them?

I feel like the focus is too much on ADD and when the subject of Hyperactivity/Restlessness comes, it is always about kids. To an extent, most of us with Hyperactivity learn to regulate our impulse but for me anyway, movement is still a very important part of my life.

Needing to walk while studying(which is really just rereading my notebook), going for a walk to chill out after rage buildup, and pacing around when i excited or inspired by a story. Pacing to organize my thoughts and figure things outs. I get restless easily, cant stand to listen to calm music, or really any music that isn't exciting. I get impatience easily, talking really fast, can't eat slowly, walk quickly etc...

And those are just some examples. For a couple of years i didn't really think i had ADHD because i couldn't see myself in the symptoms people talked about online. Sure i had attention issues, but my thoughts never felt disorganized or all over the place. Actually narrating a Monologue in my brain is how i learned organize my thoughts. Yes, i still jumped all over the place but it never felt random XD.

Honestly, what has helped me with understanding my ADHD is the autism community, especially when it comes to stimming. I feel like i use movement to sooth myself the same way alot of autistic people do, both with movement and other stuff

Does anyone else relate to not feeling seen as an adult with ADHD in the community?

The rule:

• I tell myself "Do this work for only two minutes and then if you don't feel like it, it's too stressful, just give up!".

Why the JUST TWO MINUTES rule works for me SOMETIMES:

1. Helps start the work:

• It's easier to convince myself to start on something, if it's for just two minutes.

2. Gets SOME work done:

• Even if all you did in those two minutes was read the problem statement, you have made far more progress than doing NOTHING - which plays into NON-ZERO DAYS.

3. Kickstarts more work:

• Sometimes those two minutes can help you kickstart a whole session of executive functioning. It might make me look at a problem which I was too stressed to even look at, but which later turns out to be actually quite simple.

4. Guiltless reprieve:

• If nothing else it at least gives me the guiltless reprieve after I am done working for those two minutes. I will pickup social media again to get the dopamine hit, but I did something! I can take a break and try again.

Notes: This is a very janky method, but it surprisingly works sometimes. It doesn't work always - especially if my stress levels are very high or I am out of will power or physical energy.

What do you guys think?

Hello, I have a big problem that interferes with every aspect of my life. And I want to ask you all if you experience this too and/or you have any ideas on how to improve this behavior?

The Problem

When I do anything interesting, or anything that just isn't completely boring, I can't stop when it's time to stop and start the doing the next thing. I always think, something like "Just five minutes more" and then I sometimes finish hours later than I had planned. This breaks all time-sensitive plans and also causes me to go to sleep far too late.

I don't think that its simple procrastination, because what I feel when I do it, is not about not wanting to start the next thing, but about not wanting to stop the current thing.

List of things I already do / have already tried

• Setting up alarms that remind me that I need to stop doing the current thing and start doing the next thing
• Creating schedules
• Configuring the Wifi Router to turn of at certain times: This is very effective (when I have taken out my SIM card before), but its only helping with cutting the wifi at the end of the day for bedtime, not other time sensitive tasks that are necessary to even enable me to sleep on time (like eating dinner early enough)
• Buffer time: Most of the time I can't get my self to view the buffer deadline as the actual deadline
• Reading books about habits: I read some books about habits, but these books are mostly about starting an activity, or don't starting an activity at all, but I need to do certain things, and stop doing them on time.
• This list is probably incomplete

Hello fellow ADHD people!

I had a weird idea today. I've noticed that sometimes I have a single specific task that I avoid incredibly painfully, to the point where, even on my best days, I basically do everything else. And it makes other things easier because the more I think about the task that I'm avoiding, the more my brain is running away to do other things.

It made me wonder, maybe I can make a dummy task that isn't really critical, but make myself think that it is, and avoid it, therefore increasing my motivation to do other tasks as a form of avoidance.

Any opinions or experiences about this?

I currently have a sinus infection. That's annoying, but I've noticed for a long time that when I'm sick it's like I don't feel the ADHD symptoms.

I lose the constant slight understimulation and I'm more mentally sharp and content. It's like my body knows I need to rest and actually gives me the mental state to tolerate that.

Obviously it sucks to be sick, but it almost makes it a nice experience for me to be able to actually hone in and make a lot of progress on my projects or whatever without fighting my brain at all.

Anyone else experience this or similar?

Interested primarily in hearing from people who've tried more than one type of ADHD Zmedication, to compare their experience under each one. Also interested in people who just know what various different med types are targetting.

I'm in titration for medikinet's Methylphenidate Hydrochloride and it doesn't seem so effective. Very little difference to how i behave on it versus off of it, it does heighten my sense of fun and make me focus in videogames for longer though. It does make talking to people and masking a lot easier, however. I'm wondering if i should ask to switch to another one.

I've taken my largest dose of Adderall yet, 15 mg. I know it's not a lot, but I'm very sensitive to stimulants in general (almost zero caffeine intake). I generally take 5mg at around 9 am and leave it at that. Sometimes I'll take another 5 with lunch. Today I felt extra fuzzy, so I took 10 at lunch instead.

I feel like I'm still scatterbrained, but faster. Still context switching like crazy. Can't follow through things to completion. What gives?

Do y’all ever feel anxious about taking medication and just stop for prolonged periods of time?

I’ve stopped my meds for 6 months for reasons I’m struggling to discern… And I also have a tendency to skip doses and save my pills in a stash I never touch. I’m not even sure if most of them are useable because they’re so old… For some context, I’ve been using Adderall XR 20mg for 10 years now so I have a pretty good idea of how it affects me.

I finally took one of the newer pills today and I feel unbearably anxious about it, even before doing so. And it’s not like I’m anti-medication or anything, I’ve encouraged others to get tested and medicated because it substantially increases quality of life but there’s something about it that personally is causing distress.

Just looking for some insight with others that have felt the same.

Yesterday was very productive

I tried to discipline myself by not allowing myself to look at phone until I take my pills (most of them are taken after food) and it seems like it's working great. Routine is needed to me, but very often it breaks, so I don't know how long it will last. I also think it was successful majorly because I upped the dosage of my SNRI meds.

But anyway, I managed to both vacuum and mop the floor in some rooms, do the laundry and work outside as well and I didn't feel like shit at all. I also went to bed at 11 pm instead of 5 am lol

@adhd

And body weight if you don't mind sharing. I've been on 10mg xr (Adderall) for 5 months and it's been helpful for me. I'm about 155lb, just up'd my dosage and got perscribed a 5mg ir dose to take as needed as well so I'll be taking 15mg a day.

What dose are you all on, I remember scrolling through a reddit thread a while ago and almost everybody was taking really large doses imo, like 30 - 40 mg a day. Maybe that's sorta normal, I dunno.

I have sooooo many memories of things like this that just haunt me. That i would ostebisbly never be capable of today replicating

Anywho with ADHD shuts down when they're bored?

I used to handle boredom fine, but now it feels like it's absolutely going downhill. I feel so sleepy the second I'm bored 😭, like almost an irresistible urge to sleep. Stimulation snaps me out of it, but it's so difficult to do the thing even if it's something I like, so most of the time I just sleep…

Sucks that I can't have meds in my country, I only have a SNRI against depression and anxiety. Anywho unmedicated has strategies that most of the time work?

@adhd

#adhd

Lapacho tea is made from tree bark.

It has been used as a herbal medicine by some native tribes, and there were attempts to hype it as a cure for all sorts of things. Scientific evidence does for the most part not support that, though. The claim as a cure for cancer has been disproven, and others, such as reducing skin redness, are based only on one study.

So it should technically be considered as one of the things that may or may not help a little more than water for some people, like green tea. Clearly no strong effect, such as Lisdexamfetamine.

I started taking it over 20 years ago. There was a suspicion of a yeast infection at the time, lab results came back negative, but in the meantime, I googled a bit and tried it. (Yeast infections are one of the many things it's supposed to help with, probably also a false claim.)

I did feel great in the week where I tried it, but my trust in the scientific method is very strong. The most likely explanation was a placebo effect, combined with drinking more than usual and avoiding dehydration, possibly a minor deficit of a micro nutrient it contains.

What it seemed to "fix"? For once what I now know to be undiagnosed ADD symptoms, as well as minor digestion problems that are always part of my life. (Poo too hard, too soft, too slimy, but rarely requiring medical intervention.)

Over the next decades, I occasionally bought a pack and drank it over a few weeks, and that always correlated with feeling great and enormous productivity and clarity of mind. Still, lots of more likely explanations for that other than Lapacho "curing" anything:

• reverse causality: Being in a good productive mood -> energy for making tea
• Usually not drinking enough water -> now that I made tee, I should not waste it
• Confirmation bias, placebo effect, law of big numbers. Lots of people have ups and downs, and certainly one of them in the world would happen to make Lapacho tea during theirs.
• Psychologically / subconsciously associating it with the first 1 or 2 times, where the improvement was just by chance.

But it just happened again. I went back to it, and I switched from a general mood of "life is hard right now" into a new golden age within a few hours. Again with a completely fixed digestion.

And this time, I question the science. It just happened too often. I had an exact measure of how much I drank before. I did not change the amount of caffeine, meds, or food. I definitely did not expect an effect, certainly not a strong one. I took various supplements before to avoid a deficit.

My theory why it might work? I think its mild anti inflammatory effect has not entirely been disproven, and maybe that happens to hit the exact spot of my specific problem. Maybe morbus crohn or similar, also related to gut bacteria somehow affecting or even causing ADHD (controversial, lack of evidence, but not clearly proven to be false, afaik!).

Well, if one of you has a similar situation, minor, but life-long digestion problems combined with ADD, feel free to give it a try. I drink a lot of it, like 1 or 2 cans. Not during pregnancy or when trying for a baby! (Unless that also is false.)

I describe a personal experience. Trust in established treatments with scientific evidence, not an inferred causality and applicability to your situation.

link to study https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanpsy/article/PIIS2215-0366(26)00091-X/fulltext?rss=yes

all stimulants in my country are banned completly, there VERYYY massive risk getting arrwsted even for bupropion
any non-stimulant which actually work also banned either very very very very controlled

only fcking atomoxetine for insane amount of money

Diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. Insomnia started in college and hasn't really gone away. I discovered doxylamine works, but I recently learned that these older antihistamines increase the risk for dementia and that the effect is cumulative. Age related mental deterioration is literally my worst fear, more than just straight up dying, so I've been trying to quit, even though I'm sure it's already too late since I've been taking them on the regular for 20 years.

There was a period of abouta year where the insomnia was so bad I was taking two Unisom per night, once right before bed and again around 3 AM (it's always 3 AM that I wake up and can't go back to sleep). This was around 2014-2015. Since then I've had to medicate on average once every other night at best.

I've tried a couple other meds. I've tried melatonin (usually as a gummy) but I habituate quickly. Anti-anxiety meds didn't really do anything and muscle relaxants just relaxed my muscles, not my brain. Magnesium doesn't seem to help either.

AFAIK I have good sleep hygiene, consistent bedtime even on weekends, only use the bed for sleep, actually this goes for the entire bedroom, no desk or computer etc. I'm early to bed and early to rise (hence my username), going to bed around 8:30 and (ideally) getting up between 5 and 5:30.

I've tried a few things besides meds, a weighted blanket helps a little but not much (I'm also allergic to something in it, so I have to have a top sheet between me and the weighted blanket and a comforter above otherwise my nose and eyes run. I've tried music, spoken word (usually audio books or calm YT videos in the background), white noise, complete silence. The trick with the books/vids is they can't be so engaging that they keep me awake, but they can't be so boring that they just become noise that can't out-compete my brain. I've even written my own little short stories and converted them to audio.

I've tried exercising. I like walking, so I often go for long treks around my neighborhood. I also have one of those half-a-bikes that you can use while sitting on the couch. It's great when watching videos or playing games. But effect on sleep is mixed. I also have arthritis in my left knee that gets worse if I exercise, so after a day or two I have to take an extended break until the pain goes away. I've seen a doctor about it and gone to physical therapy, but it remains.

Alcohol sometimes helps, but I absolutely don't want to self-medicate with booze. It will not end well.

Stress going on in my life obviously makes it worse, so there are times of relatively low stress where I can get a whole night in. I had a streak of about 2.5 months that just ended where I slept well consistantly thanks to having dropped a certification program that I wasn't passing despite 8 attempts at the exam. But now the uncertainty of where my career is going now that all my certs are expired as well as a general midlife crisis and good ol' existential dread have moved in.

And of course there's the stress caused by the insomnia itself. It starts with one bad night, I feel crappy the next day, then the next night I start worrying that I won't sleep again, making me feel even worse the next day, and it's a positive feedback loop.

So that's my situation. I've seen similar questions asked here and elsewhere and there doesn't seem to be a solution, unless someone can refute the antihistamine-dementia connection.

I am fully aware that I shouldn't drink alcohol while on Ritalin, however I do sometimes cook with it, so I was curious on if that's a major problem, as the relative quantity of alcohol is much lower than when drinking it. Say for instance a sauce that's 1/5 Sake (15% alcohol) of which you then use around 30-40ml. That's barely any alcohol, so should I be worried and maybe not take my meds when I'm planning on making food containing alcohol, or is it fine if I just avoid beers and wines and such?

Edit: The consensus seems to be that it's fine, especially if it cooks longer, because it's a low amount and at high heat the alcohol cooks away anyways. Thank you everyone for your input!

From the conclusion:

1. Support curated digital stimming: Blockers could provide familiar, soothing content that fits neatly into a set amount of time for digital stimming, helping users settle their minds without falling into doomscrolling.

2. Use task-based rules over timers: Distractions could be blocked until a specific goal is met (for example, “until I write two pages”) rather than setting arbitrary time limits for focus.

3. Use scaffolds, not crutches: Blockers could be framed as a way to build personalized growth and self-acceptance through affirming language that normalizes fluctuating focus.

Internet developers. Please fix the apps!

What else would you like to see in a focus app? Do you know any that do a good job (in the directions above ideally)?

Please make them stop. Why are they still legal? My neighbor has been using a mower, weed eater, and leaf blower for 5.5 hours. Nobody else ever notices the noise but my auditory sensitivities make me want to claw my skin off.