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It's a skill you can learn. If you're into TTRPGs, I've found that can be a great way to practice, because the format is engaging, and the nature of the game benefits from equal contributions. I try to make characters that focus on setting up other members of the party in different ways. When we're in combat, I try to involve other characters in tactics, and in roleplay, I make an effort to involve everyone at the table. GMing is especially good for this, as you want your party to be doing most of the talking, and you want everyone to be having fun.

As I've played more, and interacted in other casual social situations, I've definitely gotten better at filling an appropriate role in a conversation. I'm the host! It's my job to make sure everyone is comfortable and engaged. Usually that means asking smart questions and getting people onto topics they naturally enjoy, usually to do with their own lives. Shared interests are a bonus (and often the roots of a friendship). And it's something that I can do anywhere, even if I'm not actually hosting the gathering, because it just comes off as being genuine

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    But someone did mention another bit of information, which I fell down a wikipedia rabbit hole on for about 2 hours! So maybe now I can read the article

    Edit: I did it! I also watched two and a half YouTube videos about homesteading.

    This third type describes my wife perfectly. She's had lots of other tentative diagnoses like bpd and autism, but has still been struggling to work through it all, and find an effective combination of medications. She actually takes antipsychotics, as well as a high dose of hydroxyzine as needed in emergencies

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    I'm taking 30, and my doctor told me that's that max they can prescribe. I'm ~175lbs, and this seems like the right amount for me. I have really high tolerances to other substances, like alcohol, and caffeine, so I expected I'd need a higher dosage, and we arrived at 30 pretty quickly.

    Having a smaller dose to take later in the day sounds nice. I often feel my meds wear off a few hours before bed, when I'd like to be focusing on a hobby, which I'd love their help on. I think I'll ask my doctor about breaking up my dosage into two at my next appointment.

    If 10mg feels like it's working for you, and you think the 5mg boost will be enough, stick with it and don't worry about comparing to other people's dosages. For me, my meds working feels like more energy throughout the week, and more ability to focus on and start tasks that otherwise could have bored or paralyzed me. I'd recommend you focus on getting to something like that with your meds if you can, while minimizing side effects (I've only ever had some slightly increased emotional volotility in the first couple weeks I first started n Adderall).

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    I wanted to share this project, Ultra Mega, that's being worked on by one of our community members here in Lansing. This is by the creator of the Lansing Independent Comics and Zine Fest, which was new this year, and my friends and I really enjoyed.

    The goal is to promote local art through a risograph printing workshop available to the community. Especially now, I believe supporting local creatives is incredibly important. Not only does it enrich the lives of everyone involved, it could be a crucial tool in the fight against fascism. The current administration continues to habitually violate the Constitution, and dismantle our scientific and social institutions. Independent media could soon be our only reliable source of knowledge.

    I proudly support Ultra Mega in Lansing

    https://gofund.me/60c278ca6

     

    I wanted to share this project, Ultra Mega, that's being worked on by one of our community members here in Lansing. This is by the creator of the Lansing Independent Comics and Zine Fest, which was new this year, and my friends and I really enjoyed.

    The goal is to promote local art through a risograph printing workshop available to the community. Especially now, I believe supporting local creatives is incredibly important. Not only does it enrich the lives of everyone involved, it could be a crucial tool in the fight against fascism. The current administration continues to habitually violate the Constitution, and dismantle our scientific and social institutions. Independent media could soon be our only reliable source of knowledge.

    I proudly support Ultra Mega in Lansing

    https://gofund.me/60c278ca6

    Just got diagnosed (midwest.social)
     

    I'm turning 27 tomorrow, so this is kind of like a birthday present. It's definitely a good feeling, because it means I haven't been lying to myself for months, which I was afraid of.

    I'd been trying hard not to panic all day, just because I knew I'd be getting the call this afternoon. I'm fortunate to be off work, so I'm stoned with my cat in front of the AC. My doctor started off by describing her appraisal of my condition, and I started crying. I stopped her part way through to tell her how much of a relief it was to hear her express back to me, what I had been terrified, for two weeks, that I hadn't explained adequately.

    It was actually kind of funny, hearing her tell me all these things like they were news. But it's official. I may have high logical and reasoning ability, but when presented with large amounts of information, or when having to absorb it over long periods of time, I become inattentive. I have ADHD.

    That matches up with my two and a half years of college. With my grades in high school, that fell off over the last couple years. With the constant weight of weariness I feel clocking in at work each day.

    As a 27 year old man, with a gorgeous fiance, a high skill job, and a great group of friends (who will definitely managed to schedule another D&D session someday), it's hard for me to feel like there's anything wrong with me. I think, getting officially diagnosed just makes me believe, even more strongly, that humanity can only improve by learning about each other's differences. I'm glad that a space like this exists, on a free, open platform, for people like us to share our experiences.

    I'd love to hear how anyone else felt about their diagnosis. I'd also love any tips from my elders (or youngers), on what to do next! Sounds like my PCP can prescribe me Adderall now, so that's a pretty cool unlock. What I'm most unsure about is getting a therapist. Has anyone tried remote therapy? I'm generally a recluse, so that's probably the option I'd favor if there are good options out there.

    Thank you!

     

    A lot of memes I across the Internet are about how everyone, no matter how old, is just a kid inside, trying to figure out what's going on, which is something I definitely identify with.

    But every once in a while, something happens that does actually make me feel like a grown-up. It's usually small, and kind of silly, but it's fun, and I thought people might want to share theirs.

    For me, most recently, it was realizing I like Greek yogurt now. It was trendy when I was like 12, and I couldn't stand it then, but I bought some on a whim, and now I keep the fridge stocked. That drastic change in my tastes took me aback momentarily, but I thought it was a nice fun little milestone.

    How about you?

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