Man here.

One of my favorite crime writers is Karin Slaughter.

I've read dozens of stories written by men where a character remarks on how badly jailed child molesters are treated by their fellow prisoners.

Slaughter is the only one who pointed out that it was most likely because a lot of the prisoners had been abused as children and it wasn't a case of righteous anger as much as it was abuse victims getting the only revenge they could.

Sorry if off topic.

As a gender queer guy with social anxiety I often find myself empathizing with aspects of how women describe the social burden and hyper awareness of other people's emotional states. The sort of obligatory people pleasing written into the rulebook of life for women.

It seems like the things I struggle with clinically are in certain ways, kinda just a part of the female-socialized experience of the world a lot of the time, and that sucks.

Its interesting but would make sense that that might distort one's writing voice, I hadn't heard or considered that before

I heard that we do. Using the word "just" is a good example. I pretend I'm a mediocre white dude while corresponding, and it seems to take care of it for the most part. 😉 It's crazy what habits we've unconsciously picked up...

There are probably learned habits, sure. We also read things differently depending on how we gender the author, so it can be complicated to analyze.

When I think about this subject, I remember James Tiptree Jr ( which was the pseudonym for Alice Bradley Sheldon).

A quote I got from wikipedia about her:

There was speculation Tiptree was a woman, however, based partially on the themes in her stories. In 1975, in the introduction to Warm Worlds and Otherwise, a collection of Tiptree's short stories, Robert Silverberg wrote: "[i]t has been suggested that Tiptree is female, a theory that I find absurd, for there is to me something ineluctably masculine about Tiptree's writing."[19] Silverberg also likened Tiptree's writing to Ernest Hemingway's, arguing there was a "prevailing masculinity about both of them—that preoccupation with questions of courage, with absolute values, with the mysteries and passions of life and death as revealed by extreme physical tests, by pain and suffering and loss."[19]