Eight years ago I was tasked with writing blog posts for a tech event with little writing experience under my belt, so I was given an editor. Nothing changed my writing style more than she, who pointed out all the ways (she asserted) women hedge and weaken their language to minimize the impact of their words. It's a learned response, she told me, to not appear aggressive or unagreeable.

I still flinch every time I use the word "just," even if it just makes sense.

What do you think?

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As a gender queer guy with social anxiety I often find myself empathizing with aspects of how women describe the social burden and hyper awareness of other people's emotional states. The sort of obligatory people pleasing written into the rulebook of life for women.

It seems like the things I struggle with clinically are in certain ways, kinda just a part of the female-socialized experience of the world a lot of the time, and that sucks.

Its interesting but would make sense that that might distort one's writing voice, I hadn't heard or considered that before

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