i dont think most people associate it with behaving like a woman, at least i dont ever use it like that

if i hit my foot on something and say "you -idontwannagetbanned-!" theres no association with any womanlike behavior lol

same with like an annoying boss fight in a video game, i might call it that, not thinking even for a nanosecond that the behaviour is in any way womanly

i just use it as a more vulgar synonym for "annoying" really. i dont associate women with being annoying nor do i think that being annoying is a female trait. i would hope that most people think the same too but im ready to be proven wrong.

i hear the word relatively often from women who do use it against women too so in my experience theres not much of a case for it being a slur if the hurt group uses it as often or more often than others