I suggest to read more than one article about the double empathy problem at first.
We have multiple papers stating it's the way we are mistreated the issue. Autists don't have a lack of empathy, communication, socialization, non verbal language, etc. We express them in a different way, an Autistic way! This is as valid as the neurotypical way.
We need to stop internalizing ableism and self blaming us for everything and nothing. These are direct consequences of mistreatments too.