The issue with your explanation is that autism isn't an illness nor a disease nor a disorder. It's a neurotype, a neurological difference.

It doesn't come with a difference in neurology. It's a different neurology. They're no normal neurology. All of them are egal and valid. When one of them exercises a pressure to be the one, the norm, and doesn't let the others exist, it's discrimination against a minority. This ends with a high suicide number. It has deep implications with trauma, PTSD, cptsd, depression and other mental health issues from a very young age to elderly. When you can't cope anymore, you ...

And yeah, it's internalized ableism to blame ourselves.