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[–] 13 points 1 month ago (1 child)

The polite way to do this is to ask “can you talk.”

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  • [–] -4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (5 children)

    No, the polite way is to skip the preamble and just call. Either they pick up or they don’t.

    /edit: I took this meme to mean at work, where being on call is expected. In that case I‘d rather get called directly than getting interrupted twice by writing first.

    Outside work: don’t call unless this is an emergency.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 month ago* (1 child)

    If you cold call there better be blood or fire involved. It's not the 1940s anymore, you don't own my time. If you call and it's nothing urgent or important, or a programmed call, I will hang up.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    you don’t own my time.

    That’s my point. If someone writes first and then calls they are wasting my time twice.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    The point being that if you have a question and it is not urgent, you could ask by text and I will answer on my time. If it is something complex that merits a conversation, say so and we'll schedule a call when it is convenient for the both of us. If you cold call to inquire something complex and I have something more urgent or important to tend to, you are effectively stealing my entire attention. There's a reason we have asynchronous communication channels.

    EDIT: This also applies at work, specially at work. I'm being paid to fulfill a set of tasks and achieve a specific goal. Not to suck up the ego of some random colleague who is being paid just as little as me. Unless my job is to literally answer calls at a call center, don't ask to ask, don't ask to call, just ask your fucking question and if it takes a conversation I will be the first one to suggest a time for a call. But don't cold call unless it is an emergency.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    There's a 100% chance I'm not picking up a cold call. A preparatory text conversation will guarantee I pick up, after I do what I can to provide whatever they want via text so we can forgo the call if possible.

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