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NO BITCHES? (lemmy.world)
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[–] 20 points 1 month ago (5 children)

It's because they're not used to doing any work whatsoever.

Seriously, the reason bumble failed was women simply will not send a message.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    It worked for me :) Found my awesome husband there. Agreed though, there are definitely women who expect to be pursued.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I found the number of women that would actually send a message was perhaps one in ten. A chunk would just let the match expire, the others would send either one of the Gif options, or "hey".

    Half of them had an identical account on Tinder anyway.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Yeah I get that. A lot of (male) matches on bumble didn’t engage with me either after I sent a message. I’m not a wordsmith by any means but I always tried to mention something I saw in their profile and ask a question. I figured if anything it showed a bit of effort as a minimum. Never tried tinder.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Interesting that men are pretty bad as well, I had a similar approach to you, try and mention something in their profile. It's part of the reason I think Hinge is the best of the apps right now.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    People are THAT bad?

    I put more effort in a new friend.

    And I am like, disabled.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    I treated internet dating as a numbers game. Hard to get too upset about someone initially just not responding. It would feel more personal to me when we would be talking for a bit and they would just ghost. Your comparison is fair, people put varying levels of effort into their relationships in general.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I get called sexist for this, but I think this is basically the reason catfish scams work so easily on older women. When a man comes out of nowhere acting interested in you its just normal. Been a bit rare lately, but it doesnt immediately invoke suspicion.

    When i get a message on any platform from a woman, especially unprompted, I immediately ignore it. So often now to the point that they're as invisible as popup ads.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago

    Look at it from the other side: it worked for people who wanted the kind of relationship where women aren't the ones being chased and set a more even ground.
    The problem is that it is a for profit business and the proportion of such relationship seekers is small. More women just like being chased... Bumbe is still around, they didn't fail, but they had to let this model go, because they wanted more profit.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Out of curiosity, what do you mean with failed? Isn't it around and kicking?

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