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2024.08.13 (lemmy.world)
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[–] 59 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Every time I see memes about hight I ask myself why are americans so fixated on that. It's like this is the major thing american women look in a man. Never seen that anywhere else.

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  • [–] 28 points 1 year ago*

    It’s like this is the major thing american women look in a man.

    My sister did the Tindr circuit back in the '10s, and she regularly passed on anyone who was shorter than 6'. Some of this might have simply been that all the men and quite a few of the women in her family were at least that tall, but she capped out at 5'3".

    She struggled with dating for years, because a lot of the guys she went out with were either fuckbois or work-a-holics or otherwise unfun people to be around. Eventually, she got two requests in one day - one dude who was 6'1 and another who was 5'2". At this point, she was getting burnt out and felt a bit bad about not even giving the 5'2" a chance.

    The date with the 6'1" guy was predictably awful. She didn't even bother suggesting another.

    The date with the 5'2" guy was incredibly. The immediately clicked. She totally fell for him. He fell for her. A couple years later they got married. Now they've got an adorable little girl and we're all joking about how it would be funny of my sister's tall-family genes take over and she's towering over her parents in twenty years.

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  • [–] 21 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    If you're not tall enough, you might not be able to see if there's a gazelle or lion behind a large rock, thus you will neither be able to feed your family nor save it from being eaten.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    I've never actually heard anyone say they cared about height. I've only heard second hand stories.

    Mostly saying, I think it's a fairly small amount of people that care.

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  • [–] 16 points 1 year ago

    Haven't been on one in years, but women would put "guys over x height only" in their dating app profiles. I saw it as an advertisement that those particular women were very insecure and should probably be avoided, but it was a significant number of them nonetheless.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Brazil here. My ex wouldn't date anyone shorter than 175cm and my current gf wouldn't even look at me if i was under that height.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    If you're with someone so shallow it only speaks to your own mentality

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Couldn't you just have lied I mean on the first date did you bring out a measuring tape? Do you actually know how tall you are I find it weird that people would care enough to check.

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  • [+] -13 points 1 year ago

    Couldn’t you just have lied

    Why would I? I am over 175cm

    did you bring out a measuring tape?

    With my current gf, she was the measuring tape, we're both the same height.

    Do you actually know how tall you are

    Of course I do

    I find it weird that people would care enough to check.

    Weird is not caring about your height, imo.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Meh, I'm 5'8" and have often found myself punching well above my weight class when it comes to women. LOL, and I'm always surprised.

    I've also noticed a great many tall women dating/marrying shorter men these days. Used to be a rare sight, now it's commonplace. Hell, I've dated a few women that were 5'10".

    The memes are coming from women on dating sites specifying a height of 6'. And yes, that's commonplace. I think it's a reaction to men lying about their height (women lie about their weight), and people I've dated have backed up that idea.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    I think confidence is key.

    Like I generally enjoy a petite woman, but I'm definitely not opposed to Amazon snu-snu. However, if an Amazon class woman tries to act like a shy petite girl, that is somewhat a turnoff. Own your stature.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Is it women tho? Or is it men telling other men they aren't good enough again?

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago*

    I'm short AF and I've definitely heard that from women but I also dated several women who were taller than me, one of whom by almost a foot. People have preferences and that's just how it is. If someone isn't attracted to you there's not a lot to be done about it but move on and try someone else. It's usually not a judgement on you as a person, there's just no attraction there and as much as we would all like to pretend that doesn't matter, it usually does. I don't date women I'm not attracted to either so it goes both ways.

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  • [+] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 child)
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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (2 children)

    Bud, you need to take a breath. This was a thing before social media, I promise you. It's not a psy op.

    It's simple, toxic masculinity throughout the post war period led to a lot of men lying about their height (same for women and their weight during the same period). Over time public perception of what a tall person looked like shifted, and now every woman thinks that 6 ft is average height.

    This phenomenon came out of American advertising, not Russian agents.

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