Because those terms will not aggravate trump. The intent is to aggravate trump not denigrate femininity. Focus ffs. This isn’t about insulting trans people or women, it’s about fighting back on someone who is trying to hurt them. We will struggle to maintain allies if we cannot focus on the speakers intent and not a willing misinterpretation of their words.

Then simple question, why not use First Gentleman? Kamala Harris' husband was Second Gentleman and would have been first if she had won.

Going by your logic, that would be offensive to me, as a gay man.

But this kind of hypersensitivity, especially when applied regardless of context or intent, is one of the main drivers of the reactionary sentiment that is allowing the right to win elections all over the world. It's one of the reasons why the "free speech" argument has worked so well in their favor.

Currently, the only ones benefitting from this "moral high-ground" stance are fragile little baby egos like Musk and Trump who can rest assured knowing their opposition would never stoop as low as them, while they get to freely spew as much intentionally evil shit as they want.

A society where no one is ever offended by anyone is a utopia. It's as desirable as it is unattainable. I think the best thing we can do at the moment is focus on fighting back, not fighting against each other.

why not use First Gentleman?

Generally, jokes aren't funny when you convolute them with a distracting term that people don't know.

Kamala Harris' husband was Second Gentleman and would have been first if she had won

This is probably the second time I've read that term in 4 years. Still had to think about what it meant. I am getting the impression you don't make a lot of jokes or find them as vital as I do. I say that because I wrote several paragraphs about jokes, why they are important, and why I think it's bad if people stop making them. At no point did you respond to a word of that, and here I see you prioritizing "being PC" over a joke landing at all.

Then simple question, why not use First Gentleman?

Because we've never actually had a First Gentleman, so the term isn't familiar. This is a scenario where strict accuracy muddles the rhetoric beyond recognition, which defeats the purpose.

You're speaking with a lot of confidence about the validity of the feelings of a group of people

When did I say anything about the validity of anyone's feelings?

Because nobody knows what those are.

Frankly I think you’ve put it better than I did.

That’s exactly what the joke is about.

The punchline is: ‘they are bigots’, not: ’fuck trans people and women’.

Appreciate you.

They are not just jokes. People posting these things are doing so specifically to antagonise the right.

I’m telling you that your concern trolling is alienating allies.

I have chosen to engage in this just like you chose to deal with the blowback when you posted it.

All I have done to “fight for trans rights” is to speak out when I can, challenge bigotry as I am challenging you right now, stand up and be counted at queer marches/events and raise a daughter who took the only trans kid in her high school to prom.

You don’t know my life and that isn’t the discussion. Stop deflecting and learn to focus on intent.

I believe you that someone will think that way about the joke in the thread here on Lemmy, but imo that requires an assumption that I wish people wouldn't make. Unfortunately I am unable to follow that screenshot you posted. If it contains a joke I am not seeing it.