I'm a guy who has been dating a woman for several months. She is self-employed and I swear about 20% of our conversations is her explaining all the things she has to do every day that may prevent her from being able to commit to seeing me. She swears she just got backed up on things and she'll become more available, but I see her inventory continuing to grow, not shrink. She is also constantly supervising people on a variety of house projects (mutual disinterest in me getting involved there).

So I decided to ask the internet (DuckDuckGo (DDG) specifically): Am I dating a workaholic? What I found surprised me. I imagined I'd find a bunch of stupid little Cosmo-style quizzes, with the understanding that the reader would find out they were dating an workaholic and leave the relationship. Instead what I found was article after article after article with titles like,

• How to Date a Workaholic: 8 Steps (with Pictures)
• Dating a Workaholic (13 Tips to Make It Work)
• 12 Tips to Cope when Dating a Workaholic

The internet is assuming I WANT to date a workaholic.

Contrast that with results to the question Am I dating someone emotionally unavailable? DDG more straightforwardly answer the question ("17 Signs Someone is Emotionally Unavailable") with a sprinkling of advice for how to cope.

I see workaholism as basically identical to emotional unavailability, but obviously it's treated differently by society (maybe because it comes with money and home repairs?). So what is going on? Would you date a workaholic?

I recently acquired one thinking it was going to be a cool and useful feature, and the only time I think to use it is when I brush away a loose cat hair and my cursor goes all over the place. And the tablet mode, I think I used it once as a novelty.

Mine: Once had a meeting with a guy that wanted to be a Starlink distributor in a developing country. His first time in country, had just arrived like 24 hours before. Knew nothing and no one. No idea why he wanted to talk to me, but, whatever...

Wanted to have his "business partner" in on the meeting, and called some douche that talked for 5 solid minutes about how he could see the Cape Kennedy launch tower from his window and whatever else about how amazing he was and so tied in to Elon and all this BS. Called long distance on a real phone line to the States. Not WhatsApp, not even a VOIP or Wifi calling call. I watched him dial +1.... he had a local SIM.

Turns out neither of them even knew which ministry they would need to start with to get a permit for satellite internet service. They just wanted to sell dishies in country and had no idea how to even start a business locally. Didn't look at a single thing online before coming out. They didn't even know about local content policies that effectively meant they needed a local business to sponsor them. I sat and searched online with the guy and showed him everything they needed to see, which was on 1 website.

This was before COVID, and the country only got Starlink 2 years ago.

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I have virtually zero knowledge of The Odyssey as a Greek mythology, save for a few recognisable names like the Helen of Troy, the Trojan War etc. I do want to enjoy the movie to its fullest, and if learning about the plot material is essential to it, then so be it. Is there a good resource giving a summarized version of the plot enough to understand the film? If so, I would really appreciate it if you shared it here.

We just met, so I don’t know him that well, but he was honest from the beginning. He says he’s still married because of their son, and because his wife doesn’t want to get divorced right now. Apparently, South Korea has a fault-based divorce system. TIL.

Its an objective fact among every country that publishes crime statistics. These countries all vary widely in every other metric you can imagine (social, economic, political etcetera). But, crime being disproportionately commited by men is a universal constant. Nobody has an objectively correct answer to this question, it's just a prompt for discussion. Share your opinion, whatever it may be. However, please don't be a dick to other commenters. Disagreement, good faith, many view points and discussion is the goal here.

Cross posted from https://thelemmy.club/post/53338181

• Do you take suggestions from your peers?
• Do you search for songs in a specific genre? Specific artist?
• Do you just choose a random mix instead?

What do you do to find music?

I am looking for a new laptop for my sister. Her budget is 650€. What laptop is the best overall? Macbooks are excluded, as she doesn't like them. The OS is not important, I can install the OS myself. It shouldn't be a gaming laptop and it also should have a long battery life. No ARM or RISC-V laptops please. Build quality should be decent.

Thanks in advance.

edit: specific requirements

• Display size: 13 to 15 inches
• Display resolution: +1920x1080px
• Aspect ratio: 16:9
• Thickness: Slim
• Screen color accuracy is not important
• Screen should be anti glare
• RAM: +8GB SODIMM DDR5
• Storage: +512GB SSD
• Touchscreen: preferred
• Foldable screen: preferred
• Upgradeability: RAM and the SSD should be upgradeable
• Keyboard: QWERTZ, DE-AT
• GPU performance does not matter, would be only useful for video hardware acceleration
• CPU performance does matter

I had a lot on Connect but, since switching to Piefed, I've lost most of them. I'm curious if there are any new ones I should save!

How do you manage to keep working on a project once the "honeymoon phase" wears off?

Have you found anything that works for you, when finishing a project takes longer than the initial motivation rush will take you?

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I live in Chicago and we have one of the worst recycling rates in the country, even for valuable materials like aluminum. I have read about the Oregon bottle bill which has been successful.

Hopefully this isn't breaking rules. Yes it is a veiled attempt at advice because I've been hemming and hawing. But the question can be answered purely as is. There are obviously pros and cons so I'd like to know how you all feel.

Thank you.

If you don't believe laws should exist in general you don't have to participate in the conversation. This could include any country/government. Please keep it civil.

Which do you think would be more important when going to a new place: being able to understand and speak the language like a native, knowing the customs and practices of the place, or understanding the streets like somebody who has lived there for decades?

edit: as somebody described it, it's language vs customs vs lay of the land

I keep getting an error message that says invalid bot action. What’s going on?

For context I have this jacket but I want tracksuit bottoms to go with it, preferably the same colour palette (black, white and red).

What music albums or EPs released in the last ~20 years are way less popular than they should be?

Anything with over a million listens is probably already too popular for the purposes of this question. Looking for stuff that never got much air play, but is really excellent.