Ya, Kaplan needs to be removed from his admin/mod duties ASAP. He sees lemmy.world has his personal and private property and thinks he can do whatever he wishes. That is not what a community is about.

He is the typical reddit mod that we all hate. That is one of the reasons why we are on lemmy rather than on reddit. And yet, we are letting it happen here again? Fuck no. We need to be on the look out and stop such things as soon as possible, before they become too big to deal with.

Check out Oliver Sacks. He was into motorcycles, he was gay and also a neuroscientist. He has some awesome books.

PS: Martial Arts are hot. Keep doing it.

I don't understand the question, or the distinction.

I think (almost?) all people bond by shared experiences. You make your friends through shared experiences. This shared experience could be many things, such as the love of reading, love of anime, gym, playing the same sport, etc. But it could also be sharing the same space or knowing the same people. If you have absolutely 0 in common, a relationship is very hard.

I have no clue how this would be different between genders.

He deleted more than that. I created a post about it here: https://lemmy.world/post/43727839

I disagree with this. You can see in many of his removals that he did not even give a reason, as there is none. Why did he remove the post about Luigi? He is certainly not a politician, nor is he a family member of one, afaik. What about the one of the blood of a backback of an Iranian girl? Is a backpack a politician? Does it represent politics? Are death children politics now?

But more important than that, ALL of the posts that that mod remove had had over 100 comments. If you go to the pics sub now, there are 0 posts left with that many comments. He removed ALL the engagement. As it is, engagement is the one thing that Lemmy needs, to keep it going. That is the #1 thing we need, engagement. And that mod is just removing all of it.

Pathetic. But whatever, I will touch some grass. If people are ok with having so much content and engagement deleted for no good reason, whatever. We are all used to it by now.

I tried using matrix yesterday. I really hate to bash open-source decentralized software but.. fucking hell, was it annoying. I tried 1 server/instance (nope.chat) that just wouldn't work. I created my account on the desktop, logged in. But then, when I tried to log in on my android, it woudln't work. I logged out, tried to log in on the desktop again and it wouldn't work. Password/Username incorrect. I use a password manager, so I am sure I was typing things correctly. That pissed me off right from the get go. It was linking me to some other website, and not nope.chat, which is a bit annoying and weird, for the average user, but whatever. I just gave up on that server.

Then, I created an account in another instance/server. Cool, logged in. Worked on desktop, though I had to manually change the server in the element/browser-UI, even when I got linked there from the instance's page. Whatever. I logged in on Android as well, but immediately got a bunch of errors, asking me to reset my account. (?????). Whatever, I reset it and it worked fine.

So now I do have a working account on matrix, but it is so fucking slow and clunky. Fucking hell. I hate this.

On the other hand, I created, around the same time, an XMPP account. SO EASY. SO PERFORMANT. SO FAST. Night and day difference.

@return2ozma@lemmy.world , do you mind marking this as NSFW, please? We received remarks due to the unmarked image. You need to edit the post and check the "NSFW" section. I am unable to do that, even as a mod.

I had no idea what Loops was. Nice I guess, though short form content is just not something with which I want to engage.

Sadly, this community is not as active as I hoped it would be when I created it. We (everyone, but specially lgbtq) should seriously move away from for-profit and corporate social media, but the masses have not yet received the memo.

Thank you for posting!

Oh ya, asymmetric relationships are horrible. You did good in stopping it. You will feel much better once you let time heal you.

Good luck brother.

As the other person suggested, look into Grindr. But also know that not everyone is a good person and not everyone is truthful. You should always practice safe sex. Look into PREP and always wear a condom. "Receiving his loads inside" is definitely something you should think twice. I would suggest to not do that, but you do you.

I also have these bouts of depression. They come and go. What works for me is keeping busy. Just doing anything helps me. Just move. Laying in bed is the worst thing to do when that happens. This is my advice to him.

My advice to you is the following: Be there for him. That is all you can do. If you were physically close to each-other, I would suggest to just snuggle/cuddle. Human contact helps. But you are in a long-distance relationship, so that is a no go. Send him voice messages instead of chat? Let him know you like him. Let him know he is important to you. Let him know you are there for him.

Regardless, thank you for caring about him. Compassion, empathy and kindness are the best qualities anyone can have.