How do I federate with other instances?

1. I started a new instance
2. created an admin user and subscribed to a few communities
3. one pinned post from another instance shows up in my feed, but no others
4. searching for other communities on other instances does nothing

any tips?

"This was always a dream of the Muslim community to have its own cemetery," said Jaylani Hussein, executive director of the Minnesota chapter of the Council of American-Islamic Relations.

L E M O N P A R T Y ME WILLYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

I just bought a new domain and would like to point it at my Lemmy instance.

There's nothing in the admin panel that allows me to do that. The docs describe running a script against the database, is that the accepted way to change domains?

I'm setting up my own server, hosted by Elestio. 

The documentation says  "Administration First Steps: After you successfully installed Lemmy either manually with Docker or automatically with Ansible ..."

Which of these apply to me? I didn't do either of those things.

Any time I get hurt/angry/let down by her, she "didn't know what to do."

"I want to help you, really, I just don't know how your mind works. I don't know what will make you angry. I don't know what you need in the moment."

I wind up with a whiteboard in her living room like Bernie before congress showing her what she did, why it's wrong, what to do next time.. and I'm just tired. I always have to put in the work to get treated right.

Everyone tells me to leave, but I don't want her to have nothing.

Sorry for venting. I'm just asking to be heard, right now.