[–] 1 point 11 months ago

I realized it was not about me but what was fair to you.

You might not have known healthy and safe boundaries, so you got to meet them under conditions that I felt was appropriate (no getting drunk, stopping them from giving you scotch sort of thing).

If they respected that you got to see them more but when they fell back into bad habits, you didn't get to see them for a while.

I know they always tried to use ice cream and cake to bribe you into liking them and why you wanted to visit them.

So I am sorry if you feel you missed your chance to see them while they were alive because of me but I did it to protect you from their worst behaviors.

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    Well, there is no point in being bitter. It isn't going to make them better parents.

    Everyone is screwed up, it usually isn't their fault.

    But we just try to do the best we can.

    On days we are both sick or when life just beat the crap out of us and we just can't be emotionally available right now. We just do what what can, even though we both know you deserved better.

    Sorry kid,

    still working on doing better

    -Love Dad

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  • [–] 0 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    You write up a procedure for the setup of your server and any virtual machines contained within.

    Using declarative Distros makes the procedure shorter and easier to maintain in the long run.

    Then you use it to setup your system (fixing issues in your procedure along the way)

    Then wipe and do it again (this time should be done without issue or you may need another spin)

    Then slowly grow your documentation and what services you have running.

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  • [–] -3 points 1 year ago

    Well AI is the exploration of how to reason about how reasoning occurs. Which is why early on there was massive progress in areas such as constraint solvers and recursive problem solving (like SHRDLU) but once we started to try to do things that we don't know how we do (like look at a picture of a bird and know it is a bird) things basically slowed nearly to a stop until computing grew to the level brute force solutions could be tested.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    You are a good kid but you never learned to take it easy on yourself.

    You need to let go of being perfect or playing the role that is not yours.

    You need to stop trying to be someone that you are not (it gets tiring fast and it sounds like you did it to the point of burnout) and just let yourself be yourself (ideally with a bunch of rest and time to recover).

    When I hit a similar problem when I was your age, I embraced minimalism (literally everything I had could fit in the back seat of my car) and lived off rice, beans, and spices in an apartment I shared rent with 5 friends for about a year. After which, I moved in with your mom prior to getting married to her. That simplicity gave me time to process my emotions and that restrictive budget gave me a huge runway to tell my boss to go fuck himself and not have to have the stress of worrying about money for a couple months while I found a much healthier work environment.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    First, there is no such thing as unskilled labor; if any job could be done economically competitively by unskilled labor, it would have stopped being a job that exists. The fact that they choose to pay you proves that you are skilled. Once you exceed 5 years experience, the degrees stop mattering for jobs that get real work done.

    If you are worried about finding a job, there are classes that teach people how to interview and they tend to be worth the money.

    Please be kinder to yourself

    Lots of love

    -Dad

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    When you have a database with 6 Billion dollars (US) flowing through it every year, you need to be able to account and prove exactly every single penny and every single action that occurred. So you better have _A tables for all of the main tables and have these columns to boot.

    1. Create_user_id – Who/what created the record
    2. Create_Dt – When exactly was this record created
    3. Update_user_id – If updated, who updated this record (default null)
    4. Update_Dt – when was it last updated (default null)
    5. Archive_Dt – When can we legally destroy these records
    6. Unique_Trans_id – So that tracing down everything that occurred becomes even easier.

    It isn't sexy but it'll be handy if you ever need to trace down things in your database too.

     

    Knowing when a record can be disposed of in the future is deeply valuable to keeping database tables clean and containing only useful data.

    31-DEC-2999 is pretty common for records that don't have an easily known value.

    If you are in an organization that is trying to monetize your data, treat this value as the date when the user will no longer be able to see this record.

    If you are in a more sane industry, treat it as the records retention date minus X number of days that match your _A table storage duration or if the record is already in your _A table, the date it will be deleted and no longer recoverable.

    You may wish to put some thought to your database backup and rotation schedule so that those records cleared by that date as well but I leave that as an exercise to the reader.

     

    There are 2 ways of doing reference tables:

    unique hand written tables that perfectly match your desired data

    or

    The RT_ tables pattern mixed with cached views which will give a useful versioned reference table with an effective begin date, meaningful descriptions, version number, the effective end date (If it is set). With the ability to get previous version values if needed, who created the values, when the values were created, who updated the values and when they were updated (And if you follow _A table best practices, all of the previous updates too); not that you would likely need to update the values without doing a version update as well.

    Insert in the following order to avoid constraint violations:

    RT_TABLE

    RT_FIELD_DOMAIN (only need to add entries when creating new reference table views or adding columns to reference tables)

    RT_TABLE_FIELD (duplicate old RT_FIELD_DOMAIN values with new table to keep old column names)

    RT_FIELD_VALUES (Easiest to do 1 row or column at a time)

    Or just insert them all in a single transaction

    RT_TABLE design

    This is the master reference table for finding what reference tables exist and the versions that exist for them.

    | Name            | Null     | Type           |
    |-----------------+----------+----------------|
    | REF_TABLE_ID    | NOT NULL | NUMBER         |
    | TABLE_ID        |          | NUMBER         |
    | VERSION         |          | NUMBER         |
    | NAME            |          | VARCHAR2(30)   |
    | DESCRIPTION     |          | VARCHAR2(255)  |
    | COMMENTS        |          | VARCHAR2(255)  |
    | STATUS          |          | CHAR(1)        |
    | CREATE_USER_ID  | NOT NULL | VARCHAR2(20)   |
    | UPDATE_USER_ID  |          | VARCHAR2(20)   |
    | CREATE_DT       | NOT NULL | DATE           |
    | UPDATE_DT       |          | DATE           |
    | UNIQUE_TRANS_ID | NOT NULL | NUMBER         |
    | EFF_BEGIN_DT    | NOT NULL | DATE           |
    | EFF_END_DT      |          | DATE           |
    | ARCHIVE_DT      | NOT NULL | DATE           | 
    

    REF_TABLE_ID is the primary key

    RT_FIELD_VALUES design

    The actual reference table values

    | Name               | Null     | Type          |
    |--------------------+----------+---------------|
    | REF_TABLE_FIELD_ID | NOT NULL | NUMBER        |
    | FIELD_ROW_ID       | NOT NULL | NUMBER        |
    | FIELD_VALUE        |          | VARCHAR2(255) |
    | CREATE_USER_ID     | NOT NULL | VARCHAR2(20)  |
    | UPDATE_USER_ID     |          | VARCHAR2(20)  |
    | CREATE_DT          | NOT NULL | DATE          |
    | UPDATE_DT          |          | DATE          |
    | UNIQUE_TRANS_ID    | NOT NULL | NUMBER        |
    | ARCHIVE_DT         | NOT NULL | DATE          |
    

    REF_TABLE_FIELD_ID has a foreign key with RT_TABLE_FIELD.REF_TABLE_FIELD_ID FIELD_ROW_ID a sequence value used for all entries on a row

    RT_TABLE_FIELD design

    This is the glue table for all of the reference tables

    | Name               | Null     | Type          |
    |--------------------+----------+---------------|
    | REF_TABLE_FIELD_ID | NOT NULL | NUMBER        |
    | REF_TABLE_ID       | NOT NULL | NUMBER        |
    | FIELD_ID           | NOT NULL | NUMBER        |
    | CREATE_USER_ID     | NOT NULL | VARCHAR2(20)  |
    | UPDATE_USER_ID     |          | VARCHAR2(20)  |
    | CREATE_DT          | NOT NULL | DATE          |
    | UPDATE_DT          |          | DATE          |
    | UNIQUE_TRANS_ID    | NOT NULL | NUMBER        |
    | ARCHIVE_DT         | NOT NULL | DATE          |
    

    REF_TABLE_FIELD_ID is the primary key (sequence or uuid) REF_TABLE_ID is a foreign key to RT_TABLE.REF_TABLE_ID FIELD_ID is a foreign key to RT_FIELD_DOMAIN.FIELD_ID

    RT_FIELD_DOMAIN design

    The actual column names for the reference tables

    | Name            | Null     | Type          |
    |-----------------+----------+---------------|
    | FIELD_ID        | NOT NULL | NUMBER        |
    | NAME            |          | VARCHAR2(50)  |
    | DATA_TYPE       |          | CHAR(1)       |
    | MAX_LENGTH      |          | NUMBER(5)     |
    | NULLS_ALLOWED   |          | CHAR(1)       |
    | CREATE_USER_ID  | NOT NULL | VARCHAR2(20)  |
    | UPDATE_USER_ID  |          | VARCHAR2(20)  |
    | CREATE_DT       | NOT NULL | DATE          |
    | UPDATE_DT       |          | DATE          |
    | UNIQUE_TRANS_ID | NOT NULL | NUMBER        |
    | ARCHIVE_DT      | NOT NULL | DATE          |
    

    FIELD_ID is the primary key (sequence or uuid)

    RT_ALL_MV design

    The master query behind all of the reference tables (keep it cached)

    CREATE VIEW IF NOT EXISTS RT_ALL_MV AS
    SELECT
       A.NAME AS TABLENAME
      ,A.VERSION AS VERSION
      ,D.FIELD_ID AS FIELDID
      ,A.EFF_BEGIN_DT AS EFFBEGDATE
      ,A.EFF_END_DT AS EFFENDDATE
      ,B.FIELD_ROW_ID AS ROW_ID
      ,D.NAME AS COLUMNNAME
      ,B.FIELD_VALUE AS COLUMNVALUE
    FROM
       RT_TABLE A
      ,RT_FIELD_VALUES B
      ,RT_TABLE_FIELD C
      ,RT_FIELD_DOMAIN D
    WHERE
      A.REF_TABLE_ID = C.REF_TABLE_ID                AND
      B.REF_TABLE_FIELD_ID = C.REF_TABLE_FIELD_ID    AND
      C.FIELD_ID = D.FIELD_ID;
    

    Example RT_ view

    Current values can be just: SELECT * FROM RT_example_MV; For figuring out previous values or making a view:

    For sqls that support DECODE

    SELECT
       MAX(DECODE(COLUMNNAME, 'CODE', COLUMNVALUE)) AS CODE
      ,MAX(DECODE(COLUMNNAME, 'DESCRIPTION', COLUMNVALUE)) AS DESCRIPTION
      ,MAX(VERSION) AS VERSION
      ,MAX(EFFBEGDATE) AS EFF_BEGIN_DT
      ,MAX(EFFENDDATE) AS EFF_END_DT
    FROM FROM RT_ALL_MV
    WHERE
      TABLENAME LIKE '%STATUS_IND%' AND VERSION=3
    GROUP BY ROW_ID
    ORDER BY CODE;
    

    For sqls without

    SELECT
       MAX(CASE COLUMNNAME WHEN 'Code' THEN COLUMNVALUE END) AS 'Code'
      ,MAX(CASE COLUMNNAME WHEN 'S0_Rate' THEN COLUMNVALUE END) AS 'S0 Rate'
      ,MAX(CASE COLUMNNAME WHEN 'S1_Rate' THEN COLUMNVALUE END) AS 'S1 Rate'
      ,MAX(VERSION) AS VERSION
      ,MAX(EFFBEGDATE) AS EFF_BEGIN_DT
      ,MAX(EFFENDDATE) AS EFF_END_DT
    FROM RT_ALL_MV
    WHERE
      TABLENAME LIKE '%example%' AND VERSION=1
    GROUP BY ROW_ID
    ORDER BY CODE;
    
     

    The HIST_NAV_IND column:

    When you want a history of values (such as ratings) in the main table for some business requirement, add this column and use the following values:

    S => When you have only 1 record

    F => The first record when you have more than 1 record

    P => The current primary record when you have more than 1

    M => The previous P records that have been surpassed.

    The EFF_BEGIN_DT and EFF_END_DT columns:

    In case you might need to do reprocessing of old records you will want an easy way to figure out which rate history that you would want to use; EFF_BEGIN_DT and EFF_END_DT make that simple.

    EFF_BEGIN_DT is always set in every record (generally it should match the create date but there are business reasons why you want it separate)

    EFF_END_DT should be NULL for the current primary record (unless you are organized enough to always know the future rate change date in advance [unlikely]) and should always be set for the M and F records to the day [or hour, minute or second] prior to the EFF_BEGIN_DT of the new P record. The EFF_END_DT of one record should never overlap with the EFF_BEGIN_DT of the next and you can use TRUNC("TimeStamp", DATE) to ensure that your select driver will always either get 1 [normally] or zero [They shouldn't have been included] records.

     

    You will find 2 different implementations for this, the first (very wrong) is a unique sequence for every table and it serves the purpose of a HIST_SEQ column.

    The second (correct) is a global sequence which will be the same for all records in all tables which are updated by a single transaction. The purpose is to make it trivial to find all records (inserted, updated [ and deleted if using _A tables]) in a single transaction. [You'll want to add an AUDIT_UNIQUE_TRANS_ID column to your _A tables for that linkage]

    In simple environments this can be just a simple sequence and in more advanced environments this can be a UUID. The key is it must be unique on every transaction but its value should not be used to provide any information about the order of events in a table (that is the job of a HISTORY_SEQ column).

     

    If you might need to store multiple duplicate records or want a sequence number for the order of created/updated records in your table.

    This is what you need, the big annoying bit is you need to also update this column on EVERY SINGLE UPDATE to that table and you'll want _A tables if you want to figure out historical ordering of events. And you will be creating a unique sequence for every single table where this column exists. but just shove that functionality in a trigger.

    This also would be quite handy if you want a unique key handle for picking which records are being manually deleted and you have the solution when one person updates a record at the same time someone else is trying to delete a record.

     

    Sometimes called journal or audit tables. _A tables do the following magic trick: you can't screw up or delete your data in a way you can't recover.

    In the most simple version possible you take your table foo, duplicate it's structure in a table named foo_A and add 2 columns: audit_dt and audit_user_id. Then you create triggers for update and deletes on the table foo to first write the old values as a new insert in the foo_A table.

    Now even if you screw up your select and delete all of the contents of table foo. everything will still be in table foo_A. If you accidentally overwrite everything in foo with garbage data, the good data will still be in foo_A

    The application nor any of the users need to know about the _A tables (unless you want to leverage stored procedures instead of triggers to create the _A table entries)

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