[–] 2 points 1 day ago

To add to this, vaginismus can be as much phycological as it is medical. Having bad/painful experiences with piv sex can cause a 'feedback loop' making things worse. There's also some medication that can interfere with 'wetness', for a lack of a better word. Lube is a godsend and can help alleviate initial pain allowing you to relax, and may be enough to start building up positive mental associations with penetrative sex. But most of all, do seek medical advice, it's not supposed to hurt.

Also, you can ask for a smaller speculum when going for a pap smear, - I didn't know that and had a horrid experience that stopped me going for my next one for nearly a decade. (I'm better at self advocating these days)

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago*

    Got tired of being disappointed by store bought flapjacks so found a recipe to make them myself. They weren't as chewy as I had hoped but tasted really nice.

    Gonna get more ingredients to experiment a little with the ratios when I make them next, to try to find the right texture.

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  • [–] 17 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    A furry is an anthropomorphic animal/creature, that's just a cat girl.

    A werewolf or Bugs Bunny would be classed as a furry, a human with animal ears and/or tail is not. (That would be classed as kemonomimi)

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago

    I used to avoid looking at it, I had a very toxic relationship with my self image for a long time.

    I used to be underweight when I was younger, then as an adult that learned to cook nice food I got a lot heavier, which was hard as someone with a warped sense of what 'healthy' weight was.

    After many years of untangling my issues and accepting my body I started to take better care of myself, I'm still a little pudgy but I like looking at how exercise is changing my overall form and fitness. - I still have a bit of a belly and soft hips but I like having some softness to my shape too. (Also, belly bongos are fun)

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I had a nearly 20 years old gallery on DA, deleted it when they announced the dream up ai bullshit.

    Sometimes hurts to think about, but then some new bs from them pops up that reminds me I did the right thing.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago

    No. You are creating in spite of your depression, not because of it.

    You might become drawn to different subjects or style, but it's horseshit that depression and misery causes you to make 'good' art.

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  • [–] 26 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    This is nothing new, people have been saying this shit since before the internet became a household thing. (I organise all my movies alphabetically, I'm soooo OCD!) It's just the vernacular that changes.

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