[–] -3 points 4 months ago* (3 children)

I'm by no means pro Israel but shouldn't this rhetoric of dissolving states also be applied to brutally violent imperialist countries like the US too, or pretty much any state for that matter? Not meaning to be inflammatory, it's a sincere question.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago

    Narcissists will never voluntarily do therapy. The brain is a simple organ. It only learns new things by being surprised, when something unexpected happens. This has to be repeated over and over again to have an effect.

    I'd recommend you take a look at schema therapy and mention it because I recognise the emotional state that comes across in what you post. Schema therapy would talk about this as "angry child mode". Which is not intended to invalidate the very real reasons you have to be angry. It becomes a prison, isolation yourself from different parts that exist within you that could otherwise work in your favour to help you achieve what you want or better advocate for your needs.

    Without the support of someone who knows what they're doing that angry child mode is a never-ending pit of despair and source of guilt.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    Maybe a negativity schema from a parent who was very tightly wound and anxious. Kids learn this stuff before the age of five. I know that if I have ten positive interactions and one negative then the negative one is going to dictate the narrative I tell myself about the world. If you know what to look for it makes it possible to catch yourself falling into patterns of thought, identify why and learn to see things a bit differently. It doesn't invalidate anything you've been through.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Someone who's hyper independent would prefer solitude and would likely have problems with relationships for a number of reasons including being really out of practice. And not having any reference point for understanding what a secure attachment looks and feels like.

    You can have a significant preference for being alone, require a great deal of quiet time and still suffer from social isolation.

    It's all interconnected, we're not designed to live a life alone.

    Having said that I still wish people would stop approaching me when I leave the house :/

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    My better half put me onto this game and it's been a great distraction over the past month or so. It's a mobile game which is ideal because pain can make it hard to game on a laptop sometimes. Thought it'd be worth mentioning here.

    Also good for people who are trying to minimise doom scrolling but find it hard to get off the phone

     

    Can't shake the pervasive feeling that every person I pass is a threat to my wife, that we might get attacked for being trans. Being around people was never easy even when I wasn't visibly queer and trans. People are exhausting and I don't trust their stated motivations. I don't like the way we're looked at, when I do make eye contact with someone I regularly see extremely negative emotions written on their face. Feel unsafe and incompetent and anger starts to build up.

    I'm four months on T this month and the decision to start was pretty significantly influenced by these feelings and the fear it would only continue to get worse. It feels impossible to begin to start interacting with people again, logically I know it's the next necessary step but anxiety, trauma make it super easy to avoid indefinitely. Does anyone relate or have advice?

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