[–] 1 point 11 minutes ago

For her, a quota might be how she relates to the world. I think the important parts are that you are telling her how much time you need and what types of together time, and that she is making time for you.
That might not be a permanent way of things. But it's how she might need it structured initially until you have a routine.
I think the important questions are: are you having fun? And do you see a future?
If she is making you a part of her life, and hearing you out and trying to respond to your concerns, those are good signs for the latter.

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  • [–] 1 point 24 minutes ago (2 children)

    People operate at a certain standard. Social connections / mess tolerance / chaos in their life are some examples.
    When they haven't reached their quota, they will adjust their life until their quota is met. I would expect this person to continue operating in the way that they have been. It's totally reasonable to state your expectations on how much time minimum you need to continue the relationship. Then, if they don't fulfill that, that's on them.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 day ago

    Nuka tempest seemed decent for a diy idea. The shark 5 yr purifier is good for set it and forget it and low cost of ownership. Definitely look up cost of filters before you buy. Housefresh has detailed reviews and you can watch the videos of them testing the device

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  • [–] 7 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    More perfect union did a few stories about this. Beware the bill that looks like it helps but secretly opens the door to doing the same thing. Basically, don't believe what you see until someone you trust says it will actually help.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 days ago (1 child)

    What's funny is the growth of right wing anti cop channels. People with guns all over the background of the shot, talking about private property and etc, talking about how cops are just out to get you. There's like 50 of these channels and they're popular. Every video the host says that cops make shit up, invent ways to get you in prison, and never to talk to them. And then shows a body cam video exemplifying that. Police are really fucking things up if they are losing the audience this much.

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  • [–] 8 points 3 days ago (3 children)

    Living without high speed rail is hard. Having family spread among several states or 8 hr drives away is hard - especially with young kids. As a result we take 1 hr flights.
    I think in this instance promoting high speed rail is preferable to shaming plane travel

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