I'm chaotic anxious. I don't have the energy or the resolve to be fully the second type but I have the energy to be anxious about not being better.

How the fuck am I always both

Nested parentheses, I like your style.

I transitioned from the first to the second over the course of adult life.

Absolutely "fuck it LMAO" type. I don't have the energy to do anxious, if I try something snaps, usually sooner than later, and takes out a bunch of things like a broken chain. My life is kind of a disaster.

I'm the type that sits quietly doing everything except the thing I should be doing, feeling anxious about that thing, and staying so quiet that people even forget I'm there.

People constantly telling me i was so relaxed growing up. No shit, I avoid stressers like the plague, to the point my brain threw out my emotions in high school. Everything only started resurfacing when I became an adult and I couldn't avoid stressful stuff like being healthy and having to work and clean up after myself

I start the day as the latter, and turn into the former as I run out of energy and the mask comes off.

Reading the Getting Things Done Method edition 2 I noticed the author seemed to have established excellent strategies for coping with both ADHD and mild megalomania brought on through a successful self-help writing career

My wife is the first time and I'm the second type. By our powers combined, we're barely functional!

I spent a lot of my life being the second, where my coping mechanism was drinking, after which I became the first.

Anxious coping mechanics here

Reminder that your mood, health and the orientation of the planets can cause you to be one or the other any given time.

I'm the third kind where I don't have it together and I am freaking out about it

I'm the latter.

Hey, I'm held together by more than anxious coping mechanism. Substance abuse isn't necessarily anxious.

My coworkers think I’m the latter no matter how much I demonstrate I’m the former

My partner and I are both of those. She's the anxious one and I'm the "fuck it" one. It works out alright, she can get more done, and I can calm her down when it's not actually as important as she thinks it is.