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Wait... This isn't a place I can get a free child?
I was child free until I wasn't?
Lil guy is pretty cute.
Saw this when browsing everything, normally I'd let it pass but I felt called out.
I totally support the child free community. Was pretty sure I'd be amongst you all.
I hope most in the child free are not aggressively against children, I knew someone like that once, not a cool person.
I didn’t even know this community was here. I’m childfree and intend to stay that way. I didn’t know I needed a community to bitch about kids to do it.
There is a surprising amount of antinatalism here. Apparently people just want the human race to end.
I do want the human race to end though. Not painfully, but rather phasing out gradually (although I do realize that antinatalism is such an unpopular opinion that it isn't really possible). No hate for children or any other being though. I just want there to be less suffering.
do you want to end all life that suffers?
Not sure what you mean by that. Neither I nor antinatalism advocates for ending existent life. It is just about not causing additional suffering by bringing new beings into existence.
If anything, I believe that we should acknowledge that we are all in this suffering together, and be compassionate to fellow living beings.
It's the logical conclusion of antinatalism. All life "suffers". If you stop bringing new beings into the world that can experience suffering then you're advocating for no life at all after this current generation.
And yes I fully support compassion and empathy, but you can do that while also sustaining the human race and life as we know it.
Got it. Thanks for clearing that up. I thought you were talking about antinatalists ending existent life.
Yes, in the ideal scenario, I think it is best to "end" all life, via gradually phasing out of existence. I think that would cause minimal suffering. I do not realistically think that it could happen in the next generation (or in any generation owing to how extreme and controversial it is perceived by the general population).
Sure, you can be compassionate and empathetic to existing beings, but I see not bringing new beings out of empathy (due to the potentiality of their guaranteed suffering) to be more moral and a purer form of the trait.
yes @thedarkquark@lemmy.world because creating and ending life is the same. every sperm is sacred.....
yeah im with you here. Also if the population and balance goes far down enough people would start having children again. We just have to get back to that level.
I dream about it. Like, if a fungus infected all of mand kind, and suddenly we all stopped reproducing because the fungus made our brains not want it, what would happen? Would we take care of eachother until the last ond dies? Would we ever identify the fungus and slove it?
so many thoughts
Yeah, reddit childfree is insanely hostile and spread to other subreddits with their hate on any child. I was childfree until i understood the concept of life and how we came to be in humanity and society. I would not exist if any one of my billions(trillions?)of ancestors decided to be child free.
I don't think anyone else here is confused on where humans come from.
This is the problem with the childfree community these days, antinatalists (who argue no one should have children) have taken over.
But they are an extreme and vocal subset of child-free people. I am happily childfree but i acknowledge that other people who do want to have kids should have them, and that we need children to sustain society.
I just saw your post and never heard of this community. So it's your fault Im visiting 😂.
I think hearing from parents and getting insight into their perspectives is interesting and worthwhile. Provided it's not an unproductive dog pile of "you'll never understand true love" or "you're just selfish" nonsense. I'm secure in my position of being a childfree person, nothing another person says or thinks will change my mind or make me doubt myself or feel ashamed of my choice etc.
I'm childfree because I want to be and because I simply don't want to raise children. I'm unlikely to regret not doing something I've never wanted to do in the first place. I also don't want to be a surgeon or learn to play the oboe or dedicate my life to a religion or climb Everest or any number of things that take time and dedication and commitment and effort for a result/purpose I'm entirely uninterested in experiencing personally.
I also love and whole heartedly support my friends and loved ones who are parents. They have an immensely difficult job that I certainly don't want to do, and they impress me all the time with how much care and dedication they pour into being parents. I learn so much by holding space for them and my perspectives on life are enriched by listening to theirs. My own choice to not parent is also consistently reinforced by their stories and shared experiences lol.
I feel like a live and let live approach goes a long way in supporting open and productive dialog when it comes to this particular subject.
I’m on “all” not really interested in the community. You do you tho. Have kids, don’t have kids. Whatever.
Anyway I’m saying most of the parents are coming from all. Source: I’m a happy parent and I’m here.
I scroll all and only block communities if I have 0% interest or if I feel the community is really looking to be a place just for the people into it. The sidebar does not really say anthing about the group so I don't see why parents would not get into the discussions if it moved them.
IDK, I can easily see some parents posting to a community like this to say something like "Don't do it! I did, and it was a huge mistake..."
Opposite side of the coin from the common "You'll understand when you have kids of your own".
I just sort by all and my ADHD brain comments before I see what community I'm in. I'm trying to do better.
My kids are both out right now, I think I'm child free, no?
Because it's something I look forward to when they move out.
Once a parent, always a parent — literally. You’d still have memories of being a parent.
They aren't children any more, they grew up
You're fucking retaded if you don't think of your children as your children even if they become parents themselves.
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