It's too early in the day to be personally attacked like this

I've spent half of it doing so. I arrived to a point where I stopped caring and just let the others deal with it whether they like it or not.

We're not broken, and if they don't want to meet me in the middle when accomodating to each other, I'm not going beyond the middle point for them, actually, I feel more and more that I don't have to meet them in the middle.

Yep.

And then I realized the massive, absurd amount of effort and energy I was putting in, nearly 24/7... wasn't worth it, because a great number of them were still finding ways to find a problem with everything I did or did not do...

Despite them never putting any such effort in the reverse direction, and despite me having achieved significantly more just in life in general than any of they had as well.

Ghosted 99% of them, never had lower baseline levels of stress in my life.

Fuck'em, they don't deserve me.

I still feel a little bad negotiating for my own needs, but I force myself to do it.

To a degree. I'm the type of person who doesn't wanna interrupt people in a conversation if I need something from them and I absolutely hate that. Definitely should work on being a little more assertive some day in the future.

Yep, then realized I'm trans too

I have no autism traits that I am aware of, and I am mostly happy, but I do spend a lot of time worrying about not inconveniencing other people, far more than people care about others or me.

Disclaimer: Doesn't keep me from calling shitheads names on lemmy though

Oh yeah.

Let me eighty year-old parents borrow my car so they could drive for DoorDash a year ago with the stated intention that they'd save for their own.

Still waiting for that loan to end.

I'm more the type of slowly realizing the look of horror on someone's face as I over share.

"Not really" doesn't cut it, I actively seek to make others uncomfortable on purpose. A child rejected by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth. The part they don't tell you is you can take the child out of the burning village, but you can't take burning villages out of the child.

Nah. Trying to not make them uncomfortable is the best I can do. The rest is their problem.