And they added:

> Have a look at lemmy.world/c/selfhosted - If you have a group of family >or friends I think its a good way to get them on board and curate an instance
> that is useful for them.

interesting use case, but is it possible to separate friends and family members on the instance somehow? Because it sounds really good to protect all people who are close to you, but they don't have to know what the "other chatroom" is about.

And the link gave me flashbacks, because I tried to create my own lemmy instance. I worked every day for a month on it to throw it away in the end. It had so many bugs and a few seconds after my instance was online, I had weird conversations in my database, which couldn't be seen in the UI. And talking about the issues with the creator of lemmy was a little bit a pain, too.

After this, I've started a classical forum (flarum), because it looked like the fediverse is doing weird things, like polluting the database with garbage.

> Doesnt need to be Mastodon - could be Friendica or Gotosocial

I don't get the concept of gotosocial? It's like having a Mastodon instance with yourself. How do people find you?

I guess it's not made for creators, but for nerdy consumers, right?

> Lots of ways to simplify the process - I use Yunohost gives me Email, >Nextcloud and ActivityPub for friends and family

That's for sure, but there is still the problem that it must be maintained and if you already have a community, it would be really easy, but without a community or even people who know what this is, you have to do it all by your own. This could be stressful and depressing (imho).

> Ideally Id eventually like to see something like this packaged into a router like > OpenWrt One

gotosocial looks like it could work, but not for the whole family :D

@EarMaster I'm going to say that if you are doing it for wider family that might still be worth it (given that you can get a private stream and your network feed might be more relevant for other family members - But then it is a case of bringing your family along with you.. If you are doing other stuff for them (email, file sharing , device management - Then maybe an ActivityPub server becomes a bit of an addon

@Ulrich Ia really think the idea of having a 'common bond' is a good idea to stick to. Whether thats 'my family ' or ' members of my sailing club' or ' people i went to school with' Anything beyond that you want some legal structures between you and the users to provide a level of protection

Mastodon for personal use: not so much as replies don’t federate with main tweet.

Didn’t this get fixed very recently? I think it can fetch all replies at the time of loading the thread now.

But another instance also increases the required bandwidth and data usage for all other federated instances