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What's a phrase you hear a lot, but disagree with? (lemmy.world)
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One that comes to mind for me: "Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is not always true. Maybe even only half the time! Are there any phrases you tend to hear and shake your head at?

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[–] 154 points 2 years ago (9 children)

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

No. What doesn't kill you creates trauma.

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  • [–] 59 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Yeah what didn't kill me gave me a chronic disease. I'm weak as hell compared to 3 years ago.

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  • [–] 25 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    For me it turned me into a depressed person who no longer feels emotion the way I did before. I'm 99% numb. The other 1% is manic attacks.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago

    Shout out to my ex who started on #2 recently, as people keep telling me.

    Maybe they got therapy and will be a better person this time. Maybe #2 will be the person they need. Whatever. Peace.✌🏽

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  • [–] 22 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    In the same vein (and at least as dangerous): "Pain is just weakness leaving the body." No, you testosterone poisoned numb-nuts - it is your body's way of telling you that something is not right. Stop and listen!

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  • [–] 18 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    I’m a fan of “what doesn’t kill you only serves to postpone the inevitable.” But maybe that’s a bit fatalistic.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I won't judge. Life isn't a picnic for most.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    It’s not a picnic, and doesn’t have to be. Without the bad we wouldn’t always appreciate the good things in life. I’ve been fortunate, I’m living well these days, happily married, and haven’t suffered from depression in probably over a decade now (though anxiety is an ever present low buzz in the background. I’m used to it).

    But that phrase is irksome. What doesn’t kill you doesn’t always make you stronger. Sometimes it fucks up your life. Sometimes it’s a roadblock, other times it’s life altering in unforeseen ways, and occasionally the consequences of what doesn’t kill is a tragic fate worse than death.

    Tripping and falling might not kill me, might just lead to embarrassment. Or it could lead to CTE or irreversible brain damage from head trauma. Certainly not stronger for that sort of thing.

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  • [–] 13 points 2 years ago

    Science has proven that what doesn’t kill you (like a virus) actually weakens you. But, conversely, you become more efficient at responding to that specific thing so it only appears like it made you stronger.

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  • [–] -2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Well, no, the trauma is the event itself. The reaction to it is post-traumatic stress. If that stress gets in the way of your day-to-day functioning, then it could be called PTSD (but there's like pages and pages of diagnostic criteria too).

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