I didn't meet my wife by hunting for a wife. I met her doing fun things with other fun people, in whom I had no romantic interest whatsoever
Been with my husband 23 years, married for 20. I met him when I had given up on romance and was just exploring new hobbies with friends.
Btw the hobby was swing dancing, and I recommend dance class to everybody. It's fun, active, social, and gives you confidence at weddings and other parties. Finding a romantic partner is just bonus.