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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)
submitted 2 years ago* by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[โ€“] 5 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

Skirts, dresses, thigh highs, crop tops, and just generally the womens section of the clothing store. So many items there that are a lot more interesting than what the mens section has to offer.

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  • [โ€“] 4 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Never thought of that before, but you're right. Way bigger variety of stuff

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  • [โ€“] 3 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Right? Women have like twenty different types of tops in all the shapes and cuts imaginable

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  • [โ€“] 3 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    That reminds me of men's haircuts. If you're sticking to traditional short hair you basically just walk in and go... Okay, how much longer do I want the top than the sides and do I want a fade or a hard line? And that's pretty much it.

    Going for longer hair as a guy just gives you so many more options.

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child)

    I'm so annoyed by hair... I want to let mine grow so bad, but pollen/dustmite allergies and long hair is an awful combination

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  • [โ€“] 3 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    It's definitely got a lot of caveats. For me, it is annoying to need to put my hair up every time I eat, otherwise I eat my hair. But I love the way it feels moving around and if you have any social anxiety it conceals your face when you look down, which can be helpful as an instant hideaway.

    But yes, it is definitely many times less manageable than short hair. However... I don't have bedhead ever!

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I really love that some guys look at women's clothing and think "oh that's more interesting"

    I totally agree. My wardrobe is gigantic cause there are so many things you can do.

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    More men should just wear whatever, tshirt and jeans is really getting boring, isn't it.

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Yes! I use to be a shirt and jeans person. Then one day I realized jeans made of denim aren't all that comfy. And I could dress up more! And that actually there's all kinds of stuff out there I can look good in.

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I just need some of that confidence of yours, though. Maybe I'll do a full dress-up on halloween first, so people don't ask too much, because my god, do I not have the nerve for questions.

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Halloween is the best time to try out dressing up!

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Will definitely need someone to help with makeup, because if I do it, I'll go all out.

    On that note, my inner excitement when thinking about going full femme speaks volumes

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I didn't really learn make up until late in life, like my late 20's. But I only learned after watching several youtube videos and instagram too. I'd totally recommend just watching people put on make up and imitating what they do. It really is just painting your face by tracing the outlines of your bone structure.

    I'm always excited to be hyper femme lol

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I just want to thank you real quick for being so encouraging, it really means a lot to me.

    Talking about it like it's the most normal thing in the world is still something I have trouble with, there's probably lots of internalized stereotypes going around that head of mine.

    So thank you, really. It helps a lot.

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  • [โ€“] 2 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    No problem! I guess I have kind of ulterior motive though. I just like when guys are more interested in being femme in general. So of course I want to encourage it to be more normal.

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