In the words of my mother, who:
- survived a brutal civil war in her home country
- survived a husband who didn't let her work and made her entirely dependent on him before ditching her
- survived all her kids turning on her during a messy divorce (read: the kids were brainwashed)
- survived supporting her own mother get steadily weaker and insane before she died
- survived a thankless job in daycare watching her less experienced colleagues get promoted over her
- survived no pension
"All you have is your health, and these tender moments. Everything else is just extra."