True, but what I'm talking about the instances where someone not from a group has arbitrarily decided is offensive to a group they don't belong to, when the group doesn't necessarily agree.
For example, we've had cases of white liberals getting offended at fictional characters wearing sombreros (Such as is the case with Mario Odyessy), whereas actual Hispanic groups saw that as being more endearing and inclusive... and well the whole "Latinx" debacle...
I'm white, but I'm also trans, so I definitely see a little bit of these myself resulting in dumbasses spouting "Cis is a slur!" (No, no it is not!)