I asked someone i know why they didn't join lemmy, their answer is lemmy is too fractured and they have to sub to multiple same community to get the full thing. I think it's a quirk of fediverse/ap protocol, where each instance could have and want their own community, and some instance user would like to stay in their own instance as well.

Maybe there should be an option to join the various conversations together if a user wants to see more content. That sounds pretty difficult to manage, though.

This is a good start :) thanks for the comment/contribution

If you do decide to engage, keep in mind that you're speaking into one of several identical breakout rooms rather than a giant auditorium as on Reddit.

In real life meetings I find that smaller groups leads to better discussions.

Sort by top - 6h. That's where the good stuff is.

I sort by active, that usually helps

I did a little informal comparison between my posts and the ones at r/Superbowl, and whole the ratio was at least decently better at the time, I still get disappointed if I don't get a few comments on each post.

The likes are great and all, but to me, that just kinda feels like I'm just checking off boxes. It's the most basic form of approval.

Comments though are what really let me know making the posts are worth my time. It lets me know I'm reaching you guys enough to make you say "hey this is cool." And actual questions or you sharing something about a life experience, etc is worth way more than a hundred upvotes because it lets me know I've triggered good feelings in you from something I posted and it makes me want to post a hundred more things to do that again.

I always make sure to thank my commenters and let them know by replying, they are doing something as important as I am by posting. Without them completing the other side of the equation, it's just me telling into the void, and it's boring for me and makes posting a chore. But by you saying literally anything positive, I know I'm having an impact on your day, hopefully in a positive way, and that encourages me to post more, making a positive feedback cycle that will keep this a good place to come.

Agreed! Even a small comment gets the momentum going

That’s my experience as well. But despite commenting on many post I also leave many without comments, so guess is more an issue on number of user.

Same here, way to go :)

Yes, I do it when I need it but I mean more in general, if I enter an empty post chances are that there’s nothing for me to say. The more comments the more probable is you have an opinion to discuss or something to add to.