So wait, let me get this straight. Are you saying that it's the same thing to hold down and force someone, or coerce them with threats etc, as it is to get them drunk (not maliciously, just over the course of a natural evening together)and end up sleeping together? I don't think you necessarily are, but I just want to make sure.

Assuming we're on the same page there, then what I'm saying is that these two cases need a -legal- difference, since they're clearly morally different. Both can end up being damaging to the other party, but one is clearly violating someone's rights, and the other has a lot of nuance around it.