Parents do not co-parent with the government, as much as the gov would like otherwise.

True, I agree with you on this, they have an influence but they're not co-parenting, but school is a place where kids can be themselves among peers, and school and home life should (mostly) be shared at the child's discretion, especially if they're over 15.

Schools are pressuring kids to transition then hiding it from the parents

Source? Theyre not doing that, what are you talking about?

If that doesn't raise alarm bells you might be a gr00mer

It doesnt raise alarm bells for me because that's not something that's happening.