BitWarden ftw! that's why I started using it, couldn't remember my overly complex passwords for all the everything In the world needs a password now.

Have you told her that it makes you feel unsafe?

A good password manager encrypts your passwords with your own master password (and if you don’t trust them, use an open source one like Bitwarden)—so, even if it gets hacked, your passwords are not immediately compromised. You should take even more measures, like using 2FA such as your phone or a physical key, which basically makes you invincible. Way better than remembering passwords.

Just use a password manager that keeps a hash of your database only. They can't peek since the data is encrypted.

You could use three password managers I suppose. Then you'd either need a rule for determining which manager a particular set of creds was stored in, or you'd need to just brute force remember it.

But one thing I discovered when I stated using a password manager is that I don't have five or ten things I need passwords for. I have at least five hundred.

That's why you take several steps to ensure security. 2FA on everything. A different email address specifically for your password manager. A keyword suffix that you add to the end of every password. So even if someone gets into your password manager, they're not getting into any of your accounts. Unfortunately proper security takes a lot of effort these days.