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submitted 2 years ago by [M] to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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[–] 52 points 2 years ago* (2 children)

There's a theory, if you want to actually do something don't tell many people. It's a common problem, even for those without ADHD.

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  • [–] 24 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    I keep seeing this advice from very smart people who have their lives together, "if you want to finish a thing, don't tell people about it" - and two clicks later there's other very smart people who also have their lives together going "if you want to finish a thing, tell people about it". It's really 50/50 which one you're going to be told, almost as if it either depends on the individual which one works or it's entirely meaningless.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Telling specific people who can help is good. Telling many people is bad.

    With projects I've done at work the more people who know means more people to slow you down with their ideas. Or even delay you on purpose because they're not interested in a potential change.

    It sucks cause my primary role is process improvement projects. Great role for ADHD people who thrive in change. But hard from constant delays to deal with normies not interested in change. I've had to get really good at reading people. Figure out what button to press to influence them towards agreement.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago*

    Here’s the thing. If you want to finish something you need to finish it. Seems obvious but it’s not. Telling people should not have any real bearing on whether you finish it or not you are still in control whether you tell somebody or not.

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