It's a machine designed by capitalism to make more money, not necessarily be effective. If it was effective at its job, it would make no money. I would love to see smarter people than me, make some good algorithm style dating match app, that just helps people find like people.

To give you a slight perspective on the multiple / hundreds of messages a day, imagine they're 90% sleezoids and only 10% are probably decent men, getting flooded with heaps of messages then makes it the tiresome task of finding a needle in a haystack, exhausting work. I would argue that getting more messages isn't a better place to be. If I had to choose, I wouldn't choose that option.

Don't get bitter, take the time to well round yourself, build yourself up a better version, that's wisdom, anyway, and you'll be happier inside a levelled up version of yourself, either way. And be patient with the women wading through the mud trying to get to you.