▲ 683 ▼ Wayne Brady Comes Out as Pansexual: 'I'm Doing This for Me' (people.com) submitted 3 years ago by return2ozma@lemmy.world to c/news@lemmy.world 209 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[+] PenguinJuice@kbin.social 40 points 3 years ago (14 children) [removed by mod] permalink fedilink source hideshow 19 child comments replies: [–] DarkGamer@kbin.social 62 points 3 years ago (4 children) If only they addressed that in the article... “I am pansexual,” he says, meaning that he is attracted to persons regardless of their sex or gender. Brady puts it another way: “Bisexual — with an open mind!” he says with a chuckle. Oh wait they did. Read the article. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 38 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) (1 child) It really gets under my skin when folks frame bisexuality as bigoted pansexuality. Edit: I'm not saying he wasn't making a lighthearted joke and I'm not even really saying he shouldn't have said it. I'm just sad that for a lot of people this may be the first time they hear about pansexuality and assume it means that people who say they're bi are transphobic, enbyphobic, or something else. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] TheAndrewBrown@lemm.ee 13 points 3 years ago (10 children) Yeah tons of people use the label “bisexual” even though by strict definition they might actually be pan. And that’s totally fine, you don’t always have to use the most specific terminology. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 12 child comments replies: [–] SSX@lemmy.world 13 points 3 years ago I probably lean harder pan than bi, but the bi flag is too nice to not like it. permalink fedilink source parent [–] DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe 9 points 3 years ago (4 children) I'm not a pansexual because I refuse to fuck people with green skin, regardless of gender status. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] 2CatsOneBowl@aussie.zone 3 points 3 years ago We all have our types I guess. permalink fedilink source parent [–] lemonadebunny@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 years ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (2 replies) load more comments (8 replies) [–] MooseGas@kbin.social 23 points 3 years ago (29 children) What is a close-minded bisexual? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 30 child comments replies: [–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 3 points 3 years ago Only eats at a restaurant that has at least one Michelin Star, wears only black socks, listens only to music that was popular when they were between the ages of 12-18 years old, insists that video games and cartoons peaked when they were age 22. permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (28 replies) [–] slashasdf@feddit.nl 5 points 3 years ago Wait, you can read articles? permalink fedilink source parent [–] devdad@programming.dev 4 points 3 years ago (2 children) So somebody wanted to broaden their understanding by asking a simple question and you decided to be a dick? Maybe they didn’t have time to read the article and thought somebody would help. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments load more comments (2 replies) [–] asteriskeverything@lemmy.world 38 points 3 years ago (1 child) The definition I originally came across is a pansexual person is not attracted by gender but by the personality. So no rules or restrictions on sex organs or gender identity or presentation. It's really attraction to the person underneath above all else. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kameecoding@programming.dev 24 points 3 years ago (5 children) don't mean to be ignorant but how is that not just a word for non-superficial bisexual? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [–] Stoneykins@mander.xyz 31 points 3 years ago* (4 children) The "bi" part of bisexual implies a gender binary. Some people like that, some people don't. Pansexual is just an alternative that is explicit in its attraction to non-binary people. Some people aren't attracted to non-binary people, and use bisexual as a label to specifically mean only an attraction to men and women. Other people who might be described as pansexual describe themselves as bisexual simply because it is a more well known word. It all varies. "Non superficial bisexual" isn't the worst definition of pansexual, but saying pansexual is shorter. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 3 years ago (5 children) I’ve always felt that bi = people of my sex or people of the other sex. Nothing about the word “bisexual” implies any gender to me, it just means I’m not explicitly gay or straight! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 2 points 3 years ago I feel as a straight man with few connections to the LGBT community that I should be able to define the differences between Pan and Bi permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (4 replies) [–] kameecoding@programming.dev 2 points 3 years ago makes sense, thanks permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (2 replies) [–] SolarNialamide@slrpnk.net 15 points 3 years ago The way I (a bisexual) have always interpreted the difference is that pansexuals feel the same attraction to all genders and that bisexuals feel different attraction to different genders. I identify as bi because I definitely feel different kinds of attractions towards men, women and enby's. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Mozingo@lemmy.world 9 points 3 years ago From what I can tell bisexual can mean a couple of things depending on who you ask. Either an attraction to two genders eg. cis men and women, or perhaps an attraction to multiple but not all genders. Pansexual on the other hand means an attraction to all, including trans or nonbinary people, etc. permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (2 replies) [–] ThePantser@lemmy.world 37 points 3 years ago (1 child) Lover of cookware permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) [–] oxjox@lemmy.ml 15 points 3 years ago I’m pansexual. In doing my research, both with myself and just with the world, I couldn't say if I was bisexual, because I had to really see what that was, especially because I really have not gotten a chance to act on anything. So, I came to pansexual because — and I know that I'm completely messing up the dictionary meaning — but to me, pan means being able to be attracted to anyone who identifies as gay, straight, bi, transsexual or non-binary. Being able to be attracted across the board. And, I think, at least for me for right now, that is the proper place. I took pan to mean that not only can I be attracted to any of these people or types physically, but I could be attracted to the person that is there. permalink fedilink source parent [–] TheHottub@lemmy.world 2 points 3 years ago Universal Boner Donor. permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (9 replies)
[–] DarkGamer@kbin.social 62 points 3 years ago (4 children) If only they addressed that in the article... “I am pansexual,” he says, meaning that he is attracted to persons regardless of their sex or gender. Brady puts it another way: “Bisexual — with an open mind!” he says with a chuckle. Oh wait they did. Read the article. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 38 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) (1 child) It really gets under my skin when folks frame bisexuality as bigoted pansexuality. Edit: I'm not saying he wasn't making a lighthearted joke and I'm not even really saying he shouldn't have said it. I'm just sad that for a lot of people this may be the first time they hear about pansexuality and assume it means that people who say they're bi are transphobic, enbyphobic, or something else. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] TheAndrewBrown@lemm.ee 13 points 3 years ago (10 children) Yeah tons of people use the label “bisexual” even though by strict definition they might actually be pan. And that’s totally fine, you don’t always have to use the most specific terminology. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 12 child comments replies: [–] SSX@lemmy.world 13 points 3 years ago I probably lean harder pan than bi, but the bi flag is too nice to not like it. permalink fedilink source parent [–] DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe 9 points 3 years ago (4 children) I'm not a pansexual because I refuse to fuck people with green skin, regardless of gender status. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] 2CatsOneBowl@aussie.zone 3 points 3 years ago We all have our types I guess. permalink fedilink source parent [–] lemonadebunny@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 years ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (2 replies) load more comments (8 replies) [–] MooseGas@kbin.social 23 points 3 years ago (29 children) What is a close-minded bisexual? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 30 child comments replies: [–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 3 points 3 years ago Only eats at a restaurant that has at least one Michelin Star, wears only black socks, listens only to music that was popular when they were between the ages of 12-18 years old, insists that video games and cartoons peaked when they were age 22. permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (28 replies) [–] slashasdf@feddit.nl 5 points 3 years ago Wait, you can read articles? permalink fedilink source parent [–] devdad@programming.dev 4 points 3 years ago (2 children) So somebody wanted to broaden their understanding by asking a simple question and you decided to be a dick? Maybe they didn’t have time to read the article and thought somebody would help. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments load more comments (2 replies)
[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 38 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) (1 child) It really gets under my skin when folks frame bisexuality as bigoted pansexuality. Edit: I'm not saying he wasn't making a lighthearted joke and I'm not even really saying he shouldn't have said it. I'm just sad that for a lot of people this may be the first time they hear about pansexuality and assume it means that people who say they're bi are transphobic, enbyphobic, or something else. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] TheAndrewBrown@lemm.ee 13 points 3 years ago (10 children) Yeah tons of people use the label “bisexual” even though by strict definition they might actually be pan. And that’s totally fine, you don’t always have to use the most specific terminology. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 12 child comments replies: [–] SSX@lemmy.world 13 points 3 years ago I probably lean harder pan than bi, but the bi flag is too nice to not like it. permalink fedilink source parent [–] DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe 9 points 3 years ago (4 children) I'm not a pansexual because I refuse to fuck people with green skin, regardless of gender status. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] 2CatsOneBowl@aussie.zone 3 points 3 years ago We all have our types I guess. permalink fedilink source parent [–] lemonadebunny@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 years ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (2 replies) load more comments (8 replies)
[–] TheAndrewBrown@lemm.ee 13 points 3 years ago (10 children) Yeah tons of people use the label “bisexual” even though by strict definition they might actually be pan. And that’s totally fine, you don’t always have to use the most specific terminology. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 12 child comments replies: [–] SSX@lemmy.world 13 points 3 years ago I probably lean harder pan than bi, but the bi flag is too nice to not like it. permalink fedilink source parent [–] DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe 9 points 3 years ago (4 children) I'm not a pansexual because I refuse to fuck people with green skin, regardless of gender status. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] 2CatsOneBowl@aussie.zone 3 points 3 years ago We all have our types I guess. permalink fedilink source parent [–] lemonadebunny@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 years ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (2 replies) load more comments (8 replies)
[–] SSX@lemmy.world 13 points 3 years ago I probably lean harder pan than bi, but the bi flag is too nice to not like it. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe 9 points 3 years ago (4 children) I'm not a pansexual because I refuse to fuck people with green skin, regardless of gender status. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] 2CatsOneBowl@aussie.zone 3 points 3 years ago We all have our types I guess. permalink fedilink source parent [–] lemonadebunny@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 years ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply) load more comments (2 replies)
[–] 2CatsOneBowl@aussie.zone 3 points 3 years ago We all have our types I guess. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] lemonadebunny@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 years ago (1 child) permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[–] MooseGas@kbin.social 23 points 3 years ago (29 children) What is a close-minded bisexual? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 30 child comments replies: [–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 3 points 3 years ago Only eats at a restaurant that has at least one Michelin Star, wears only black socks, listens only to music that was popular when they were between the ages of 12-18 years old, insists that video games and cartoons peaked when they were age 22. permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (28 replies)
[–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 3 points 3 years ago Only eats at a restaurant that has at least one Michelin Star, wears only black socks, listens only to music that was popular when they were between the ages of 12-18 years old, insists that video games and cartoons peaked when they were age 22. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] slashasdf@feddit.nl 5 points 3 years ago Wait, you can read articles? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] devdad@programming.dev 4 points 3 years ago (2 children) So somebody wanted to broaden their understanding by asking a simple question and you decided to be a dick? Maybe they didn’t have time to read the article and thought somebody would help. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments load more comments (2 replies)
[–] asteriskeverything@lemmy.world 38 points 3 years ago (1 child) The definition I originally came across is a pansexual person is not attracted by gender but by the personality. So no rules or restrictions on sex organs or gender identity or presentation. It's really attraction to the person underneath above all else. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] kameecoding@programming.dev 24 points 3 years ago (5 children) don't mean to be ignorant but how is that not just a word for non-superficial bisexual? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [–] Stoneykins@mander.xyz 31 points 3 years ago* (4 children) The "bi" part of bisexual implies a gender binary. Some people like that, some people don't. Pansexual is just an alternative that is explicit in its attraction to non-binary people. Some people aren't attracted to non-binary people, and use bisexual as a label to specifically mean only an attraction to men and women. Other people who might be described as pansexual describe themselves as bisexual simply because it is a more well known word. It all varies. "Non superficial bisexual" isn't the worst definition of pansexual, but saying pansexual is shorter. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 3 years ago (5 children) I’ve always felt that bi = people of my sex or people of the other sex. Nothing about the word “bisexual” implies any gender to me, it just means I’m not explicitly gay or straight! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 2 points 3 years ago I feel as a straight man with few connections to the LGBT community that I should be able to define the differences between Pan and Bi permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (4 replies) [–] kameecoding@programming.dev 2 points 3 years ago makes sense, thanks permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (2 replies) [–] SolarNialamide@slrpnk.net 15 points 3 years ago The way I (a bisexual) have always interpreted the difference is that pansexuals feel the same attraction to all genders and that bisexuals feel different attraction to different genders. I identify as bi because I definitely feel different kinds of attractions towards men, women and enby's. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Mozingo@lemmy.world 9 points 3 years ago From what I can tell bisexual can mean a couple of things depending on who you ask. Either an attraction to two genders eg. cis men and women, or perhaps an attraction to multiple but not all genders. Pansexual on the other hand means an attraction to all, including trans or nonbinary people, etc. permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (2 replies)
[–] kameecoding@programming.dev 24 points 3 years ago (5 children) don't mean to be ignorant but how is that not just a word for non-superficial bisexual? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 8 child comments replies: [–] Stoneykins@mander.xyz 31 points 3 years ago* (4 children) The "bi" part of bisexual implies a gender binary. Some people like that, some people don't. Pansexual is just an alternative that is explicit in its attraction to non-binary people. Some people aren't attracted to non-binary people, and use bisexual as a label to specifically mean only an attraction to men and women. Other people who might be described as pansexual describe themselves as bisexual simply because it is a more well known word. It all varies. "Non superficial bisexual" isn't the worst definition of pansexual, but saying pansexual is shorter. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 3 years ago (5 children) I’ve always felt that bi = people of my sex or people of the other sex. Nothing about the word “bisexual” implies any gender to me, it just means I’m not explicitly gay or straight! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 2 points 3 years ago I feel as a straight man with few connections to the LGBT community that I should be able to define the differences between Pan and Bi permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (4 replies) [–] kameecoding@programming.dev 2 points 3 years ago makes sense, thanks permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (2 replies) [–] SolarNialamide@slrpnk.net 15 points 3 years ago The way I (a bisexual) have always interpreted the difference is that pansexuals feel the same attraction to all genders and that bisexuals feel different attraction to different genders. I identify as bi because I definitely feel different kinds of attractions towards men, women and enby's. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Mozingo@lemmy.world 9 points 3 years ago From what I can tell bisexual can mean a couple of things depending on who you ask. Either an attraction to two genders eg. cis men and women, or perhaps an attraction to multiple but not all genders. Pansexual on the other hand means an attraction to all, including trans or nonbinary people, etc. permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (2 replies)
[–] Stoneykins@mander.xyz 31 points 3 years ago* (4 children) The "bi" part of bisexual implies a gender binary. Some people like that, some people don't. Pansexual is just an alternative that is explicit in its attraction to non-binary people. Some people aren't attracted to non-binary people, and use bisexual as a label to specifically mean only an attraction to men and women. Other people who might be described as pansexual describe themselves as bisexual simply because it is a more well known word. It all varies. "Non superficial bisexual" isn't the worst definition of pansexual, but saying pansexual is shorter. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 3 years ago (5 children) I’ve always felt that bi = people of my sex or people of the other sex. Nothing about the word “bisexual” implies any gender to me, it just means I’m not explicitly gay or straight! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 2 points 3 years ago I feel as a straight man with few connections to the LGBT community that I should be able to define the differences between Pan and Bi permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (4 replies) [–] kameecoding@programming.dev 2 points 3 years ago makes sense, thanks permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (2 replies)
[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 3 years ago (5 children) I’ve always felt that bi = people of my sex or people of the other sex. Nothing about the word “bisexual” implies any gender to me, it just means I’m not explicitly gay or straight! permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 2 points 3 years ago I feel as a straight man with few connections to the LGBT community that I should be able to define the differences between Pan and Bi permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (4 replies)
[–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 2 points 3 years ago I feel as a straight man with few connections to the LGBT community that I should be able to define the differences between Pan and Bi permalink fedilink source parent
[–] kameecoding@programming.dev 2 points 3 years ago makes sense, thanks permalink fedilink source parent
[–] SolarNialamide@slrpnk.net 15 points 3 years ago The way I (a bisexual) have always interpreted the difference is that pansexuals feel the same attraction to all genders and that bisexuals feel different attraction to different genders. I identify as bi because I definitely feel different kinds of attractions towards men, women and enby's. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Mozingo@lemmy.world 9 points 3 years ago From what I can tell bisexual can mean a couple of things depending on who you ask. Either an attraction to two genders eg. cis men and women, or perhaps an attraction to multiple but not all genders. Pansexual on the other hand means an attraction to all, including trans or nonbinary people, etc. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] ThePantser@lemmy.world 37 points 3 years ago (1 child) Lover of cookware permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment load more comments (1 reply)
[–] oxjox@lemmy.ml 15 points 3 years ago I’m pansexual. In doing my research, both with myself and just with the world, I couldn't say if I was bisexual, because I had to really see what that was, especially because I really have not gotten a chance to act on anything. So, I came to pansexual because — and I know that I'm completely messing up the dictionary meaning — but to me, pan means being able to be attracted to anyone who identifies as gay, straight, bi, transsexual or non-binary. Being able to be attracted across the board. And, I think, at least for me for right now, that is the proper place. I took pan to mean that not only can I be attracted to any of these people or types physically, but I could be attracted to the person that is there. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] TheHottub@lemmy.world 2 points 3 years ago Universal Boner Donor. permalink fedilink source parent