So my little sister displays clear signs of both Autistic and ADHD but refuse to look into it. She a teen-ish. Everyone suspects she is autistic, both my parents and my other sister but if were to use intensive language here a bit, I would say she is very childish for someone going to high school. There are other reasons that makes me think she is autistic(and has adhd)

Just yesterday she mentioned she finds skin texture disgusting, and has to focus on other features in a person's face and so gets distracted easily. She refuses to wear wet bathroom saddles. She is extremely touchy and clingy to both my mom and sister. She is stubborn as a well, always thinking she is in the right. She talks more like more like someone who learned to talk from just watching cartoons rather than other people. I could go on.

I admit, its probably my fault. I was more just pushy. I treated badly, telling her our father agrees with me and his word is law. I realise that doesn't she want the stigma, that I am basically insuring she never wants to look into it. Its not a disease or cancer, the excuse of tough love is not applicable here.

I will just have to drop it, but it hurts me that she has resources that I didn't have access to when I was her age.

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[–] 2 points 2 days ago (1 child)

There's nothing to be gained from it. I'm not going to start taking medication to fix what I don't see as an issue so at best they're just going to confirm something I'm already relatively certain of. I just don't see why even bother. Having a documented proof about a condition isn't going to benefit me in my life.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 days ago (1 child)

    It sounds like you have quite an unusual and cool relationship with your ADHD. I'd be interested to hear more about it. It seems like most people emphasise the difficulties of having it, and would like to have medication to alleviate those difficulties.

    For myself, I do share those difficulties but I also don't want to tamper with my brain chemistry for fear of causing other problems, or even of it backfiring altogether. So I don't really see what benefit a diagnosis would be for me, unless there was some other material support.

    I also wonder whether I could do more to change my life/surroundings to accommodate myself-with-ADHD, instead of trying change myself to accommodate my life. I've tried the latter and it hasn't really worked, and I no longer really expect it to. I've now started thinking about what it would mean to radically embrace it. Perhaps you have some perspective on that?

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    It's just radical acceptance really. Having been dealt a bad hand doesn't mean you can't win - it's all about how you play that hand. I'm not going to start demanding a leg up or complaining that the system is rigged against me. Maybe it's not fair but it's life. Everyone has their nerfs and this is mine. Some things just are harder for me than for others but I try to find workarounds. I like who I am and I wouldn't want to be otherwise. Most of it does no real harm to anyone else. It just makes me a quirky person who sometimes acts a bit weird and doesn't follow social norms and that's okay. The stereotype of a "normal person" is not attractive to me anyway. Weird people are my favourites.

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