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Young Men (quokk.au)
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[–] -4 points 3 weeks ago (1 child)

I think you're ignoring the aspects of rape culture and assuming the issue is only ignorance.

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  • [–] 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 child)

    As a man, with many male friends, and having grown up deeply entrenched in aforementioned culture.

    Id put it at genuinely around 90% outright ignorance.

    Schools just literally do not teach this, parents dont teach it, for a lot of men they never actually get any education on the manner.

    Period.

    So the only education they get is internet influencer propaganda of the Andrew Tate garbage variety and that is basically all they have to work with.

    So lets not pretend its terribly surprising when young men grow up in those conditions and go on to become awful individuals, what exactly did we expect to happen?

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  • [–] 7 points 3 weeks ago

    Absolutely agreed. I’m certain that the 16 year old guy who coerced me into doing things when I was 14 wouldn’t consider himself a sexual abuser. Doesn’t matter how many times I said “no,” doesn’t matter how he used emotional manipulation (“if you loved me you’d do it”) and comparisons to his ex (“she never had a problem with it”) when I had zero interest. I wasn’t ready. I told him I wasn’t. He didn’t care, he just wanted his dick wet. It was normal in his eyes, and he was ready to weaponize my “prudishness” against me because he had more social clout.

    Fuck rape culture. I wish he’d been taught right from wrong. I was terrified to tell anyone about what happened, expecting more shame on me for what happened. I only started talking about it years later, as an adult.

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