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Anon likes a woman (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 4 weeks ago by [M] to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 5 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (3 children)

Getting to know people better can change your feelings about them... sometimes it makes them more attractive and sometimes less. I don't know if anyone has found me less attractive after getting to know me but I've certainly had that happen with girls I've been attracted to.

If it's a common experience for you it's probably worth exploring whether or not it's a you problem, and if so if it's something you can and should correct. There's no shortage of crappy, shallow people so maybe not but being introspective and honest with yourself is always good for you.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

    I usually need to get to know someone before they are attractive. I describe it as me being greedy, i want the full package not just one that looks nice.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 weeks ago

    I don't think that's greedy, I think that's pretty normal.

    I need to see how a person interacts in conversation to be attracted to them, as i am far more attracted to mannerisms and values than looks. A cute face is great, I couldn't care much about body as long as a person is relatively healthy (this is a very broad range for me).

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  • [–] 2 points 4 weeks ago*

    people also lie. they lie about who they are and they are often very different in private than how they are in public.

    they also lie to themselves and broadcast a image or preferences that they don't actually have, for social acceptance.

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