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[–] 32 points 1 month ago* (1 child)

The interesting pattern I have seen with this type of parent, is that they often behave more like a cruel older sibling, bullying their child. They have a teenager's mentality and often a child's fear of accountability.

The unfortunate children that have to struggle with this kind of "support structure" grow up to be hyper independent, to the point that it becomes a socialization problem, or become a wreck just like their parent.

It always baffled me how people could become their child's first bully. Like, how are you going to bring someone into existence itself just to fuckin torture them?

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  • [–] 16 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    My parents were like this, especially my mom and the outcome you described is pretty accurate. I'm iny 30s and still working on unfucking myself.

    One of my core memories is when I had a panic attack going up a spiral stairwell in a tall building we visited on vacation and after getting back down I asked that they not tell people about it because it was embarrassing. Literally the next stop was another similar building so I stayed out of it and a few minutes later I hear my mom BELLOWING from the top to everyone that was up there with her about what happened. Couldn't even make it 2 hours ..

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Yeah. I'm in this picture and I don't like it.

    Mispronounce a word you've never heard spoken aloud before? Hahaha, look at this idiot, he said a word funny!

    Ask a question about something you don't understand? Haaaaah, look at this idiot not knowing a thing!

    Forget something? (A regular occurrence for an undiagnosed autistic ADHD child) For fucks sakes, why are you so difficult?!

    Being told at 5 years old that I was responsible for my younger brother, and would be held accountable for his behaviour really helped things along nicely.

    Why don't I have kids, you ask? I fucking wonder....

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    Why don’t I have kids, you ask? I fucking wonder…

    Yeah, that's a factor for me as well. I have the same kinds of mean shit that my parents used to say going through my head all the time and a pretty short temper. I control it well enough but with someone being around me all the time I'm not confident something won't slip out sooner or later. Not interested in fucking up another generation.

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