When Covid hit i was 17, i'm italian and we had it pretty rough. After the lockdown i was left with anxiety problems i never suffered before. The last year of high school was like a fever dream, we would do like 2 weeks of school in person and 2 online and the rules changed constantly. Social interactions as i knew them before, in school and outside, changed and became more difficult. The fact that you lose a lot of friends due to everyone going to different cities to study for university didnt help either, i was basically alone for the first time in my life.

To cut it short, with highs and lows, i feel sometimes like i'm not supposed to deal with grown-up problems. Like i missed part of my life. I mean, when you enter high school youre basically still a kid and the years where you kinda are more mature are the exact ones i spent dealing with covid and its consequences. Could be because the first high school years were under my expectations and i counted on the last ones to give my youth a turn, and that's why i feel i got robbed but idk.

In general its like i arrived where i currently am (last years of uni, then who knows maybe i'll have to start working) too much fast. Like i speeded all my way in some of the best years of my life. Maybe its not totally because of covid but still, it feels like i found myself at a point far too close to the end of my youth (i mean the moment you still study and are much more free than when you will be working) and looking back i struggle to see how i ended up here.

Just a thought i had for some time, curious to see if everyone feel the same.

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[–] 5 points 2 months ago (1 child)

Experiences vary, but I can tell you the best parts of my life have been since my mid-thirties. I was too dumb in my twenties and mostly went wherever the wind blew. Once I knew myself well enough to work toward goals that were actually meaningful to me, life got a lot better.

Now I've largely achieved them. Some brought lasting rewards, others were ephemeral, and still others didn't turn out the way I expected, but overall I feel pretty good about life.

So don't sell life short by imagining the brief period where you can enjoy both agency and minimal responsibility is automatically the best part of it.

That doesn't really address your core concern, which is the feeling that part of your transition into adulthood got scrambled by Covid. I just don't think it robbed you of your chance at a meaningful or fulfilling life the way it can sometimes feel in your early twenties.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 2 months ago

    I'm glad you're doing good :)

    I think you're right, it's just sometimes is hard to imagine that the best part of your life could come in a different period than the one when, as you said, you got both agency and minimal reponsibility.

    Maybe i feel this way cause my dad kept repeating that i shouldnt waste my youth, and i probably got stuck comparing what he did in his twenties and what little i feel like i did in mine. retrospectively i probably did what i could back then, what i felt okay doing. We'll see what the future reserves us

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