I was showing my nephews and niece pics of me with my ex once because she didn't visit with me and my niece asked to see pics.

The friend that introduced us is gay, and I had a pic of all of us during gamenight with him and his ex. My niece asked who his ex was, I couldn't remember their name, so I said "that was his boyfriend" to which the kids were surprised, and asked a couple questions, which I answered in a very basic, kid-friendly manner. Just the matter-of-fact manner in which I've always explained stuff to them.

Well that was enough to send my SIL flying into the living room with a bible to go over verses that talk about how it's sinful to be gay. I sat there holding my tongue, and I could see the confusion on their faces like "he was just telling us about his friend".

I waited until she was done to tell them that another reason I'm not a Christian anymore is bc I don't think who my friends are is wrong. (Which ofc brother and SIL got upset at later)

And in the conversation I had with my brother and SIL later on, they couldn't see how me talking about my gay friends differently to my straight friends or avoiding saying someone was gay if it came up was an issue. These people live in a twisted reality of their own creation, it's frightening.

Oh 100% that's an issue esp with Disney movies I feel like, but in general I find that there's a lot of just bad stereotypes that get away with masquerading as "gay humor", or the fact that a character is queer is just shoehorned in later, but plays no bearing on the character.

Anecdotally I've gotten back into Apex Legends recently, and LOVE the representation in that game. One of my mains, Fuse, is stereotypical Aussie manly man who loves explosives, and just so happens to be pansexual and very affectionate with his nb partner. They're a genuinely enjoyable couple without any of the traditional gay/queer stereotypes found in other media, it's so refreshing.