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[–] Taldan@lemmy.world 75 points 6 months ago (2 children) Gross permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [+] sparkles@piefed.zip 57 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca 22 points 6 months ago Gross and sad permalink fedilink source parent [–] Nomad@infosec.pub 3 points 6 months ago (1 child) I'm guessing there is more than just the age of her partner that made you break off contact to her? Having family that you can fall back on in situations like hers is essential. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] sparkles@piefed.zip 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Nomad@infosec.pub 2 points 6 months ago Good on you to have the good sense to create distance where its healthy. :) permalink fedilink source parent [+] M137@lemmy.world -8 points 6 months ago (2 children) I agree, the weird thing is that this view seems to be changing among leftist people. I live in a very leftist area in a leftist city in a leftist country and the past ~5 years whenever the topic of age difference has come up among people my age (35) or younger it's been increasingly "they're both adults, nothing wrong about it". And I just can't agree, it grosses me out and feels wrong in the deepest parts of my soul. Yeah, they're both adults (when it comes to the youngest being 18+) but that can't be the only thing that decides if it is or feels wrong. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 8 points 6 months ago (2 children) I think our idea of "adult" is wrong. The age that your brain finishes maturing is 25, not 18. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] jagungal@aussie.zone 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) Even then, there are 18 year olds I've met that have the maturity of a 25 year old and 25 year olds that just don't seem to have a frontal lobe. Age is an important heuristic but certainly not the only important factor when you are thinking about emotional maturity and power dynamics in a relationship. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Apytele@sh.itjust.works -2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 1 day ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] Sludgeyy@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago Someone signing a lifelong legal binding agreement at 18 is pretty wild Like getting your driver's license and heading on the autobaun first thing Just because you can doesn't mean you should 18-25, 7 years. That's half their current life and basically all they can remember. Just to the point where you should really think about marriage. No one should feel obligated to get married. If that person cannot wait 7 years to tie the knot then they aren't ready for the rest of the ~55+ years. permalink fedilink source parent [+] Kaerkob@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[+] sparkles@piefed.zip 57 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca 22 points 6 months ago Gross and sad permalink fedilink source parent [–] Nomad@infosec.pub 3 points 6 months ago (1 child) I'm guessing there is more than just the age of her partner that made you break off contact to her? Having family that you can fall back on in situations like hers is essential. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] sparkles@piefed.zip 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Nomad@infosec.pub 2 points 6 months ago Good on you to have the good sense to create distance where its healthy. :) permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Nomad@infosec.pub 3 points 6 months ago (1 child) I'm guessing there is more than just the age of her partner that made you break off contact to her? Having family that you can fall back on in situations like hers is essential. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] sparkles@piefed.zip 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Nomad@infosec.pub 2 points 6 months ago Good on you to have the good sense to create distance where its healthy. :) permalink fedilink source parent
[+] sparkles@piefed.zip 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Nomad@infosec.pub 2 points 6 months ago Good on you to have the good sense to create distance where its healthy. :) permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Nomad@infosec.pub 2 points 6 months ago Good on you to have the good sense to create distance where its healthy. :) permalink fedilink source parent
[+] M137@lemmy.world -8 points 6 months ago (2 children) I agree, the weird thing is that this view seems to be changing among leftist people. I live in a very leftist area in a leftist city in a leftist country and the past ~5 years whenever the topic of age difference has come up among people my age (35) or younger it's been increasingly "they're both adults, nothing wrong about it". And I just can't agree, it grosses me out and feels wrong in the deepest parts of my soul. Yeah, they're both adults (when it comes to the youngest being 18+) but that can't be the only thing that decides if it is or feels wrong. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 8 points 6 months ago (2 children) I think our idea of "adult" is wrong. The age that your brain finishes maturing is 25, not 18. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] jagungal@aussie.zone 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) Even then, there are 18 year olds I've met that have the maturity of a 25 year old and 25 year olds that just don't seem to have a frontal lobe. Age is an important heuristic but certainly not the only important factor when you are thinking about emotional maturity and power dynamics in a relationship. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Apytele@sh.itjust.works -2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 1 day ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] Sludgeyy@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago Someone signing a lifelong legal binding agreement at 18 is pretty wild Like getting your driver's license and heading on the autobaun first thing Just because you can doesn't mean you should 18-25, 7 years. That's half their current life and basically all they can remember. Just to the point where you should really think about marriage. No one should feel obligated to get married. If that person cannot wait 7 years to tie the knot then they aren't ready for the rest of the ~55+ years. permalink fedilink source parent [+] Kaerkob@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 8 points 6 months ago (2 children) I think our idea of "adult" is wrong. The age that your brain finishes maturing is 25, not 18. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] jagungal@aussie.zone 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) Even then, there are 18 year olds I've met that have the maturity of a 25 year old and 25 year olds that just don't seem to have a frontal lobe. Age is an important heuristic but certainly not the only important factor when you are thinking about emotional maturity and power dynamics in a relationship. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Apytele@sh.itjust.works -2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 1 day ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent [–] Sludgeyy@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago Someone signing a lifelong legal binding agreement at 18 is pretty wild Like getting your driver's license and heading on the autobaun first thing Just because you can doesn't mean you should 18-25, 7 years. That's half their current life and basically all they can remember. Just to the point where you should really think about marriage. No one should feel obligated to get married. If that person cannot wait 7 years to tie the knot then they aren't ready for the rest of the ~55+ years. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] jagungal@aussie.zone 10 points 6 months ago (1 child) Even then, there are 18 year olds I've met that have the maturity of a 25 year old and 25 year olds that just don't seem to have a frontal lobe. Age is an important heuristic but certainly not the only important factor when you are thinking about emotional maturity and power dynamics in a relationship. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] Apytele@sh.itjust.works -2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 1 day ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[+] Apytele@sh.itjust.works -2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 1 day ago) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Sludgeyy@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago Someone signing a lifelong legal binding agreement at 18 is pretty wild Like getting your driver's license and heading on the autobaun first thing Just because you can doesn't mean you should 18-25, 7 years. That's half their current life and basically all they can remember. Just to the point where you should really think about marriage. No one should feel obligated to get married. If that person cannot wait 7 years to tie the knot then they aren't ready for the rest of the ~55+ years. permalink fedilink source parent
