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What a save (media.piefed.world)
submitted 6 months ago by to c/whitepeopletwitter@sh.itjust.works
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[+] 61 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)
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  • [–] 75 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Gross

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  • [+] 57 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)
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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I'm guessing there is more than just the age of her partner that made you break off contact to her? Having family that you can fall back on in situations like hers is essential.

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  • [+] -8 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    I agree, the weird thing is that this view seems to be changing among leftist people. I live in a very leftist area in a leftist city in a leftist country and the past ~5 years whenever the topic of age difference has come up among people my age (35) or younger it's been increasingly "they're both adults, nothing wrong about it". And I just can't agree, it grosses me out and feels wrong in the deepest parts of my soul. Yeah, they're both adults (when it comes to the youngest being 18+) but that can't be the only thing that decides if it is or feels wrong.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    I think our idea of "adult" is wrong. The age that your brain finishes maturing is 25, not 18.

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  • [–] 10 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Even then, there are 18 year olds I've met that have the maturity of a 25 year old and 25 year olds that just don't seem to have a frontal lobe. Age is an important heuristic but certainly not the only important factor when you are thinking about emotional maturity and power dynamics in a relationship.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    Someone signing a lifelong legal binding agreement at 18 is pretty wild

    Like getting your driver's license and heading on the autobaun first thing

    Just because you can doesn't mean you should

    18-25, 7 years. That's half their current life and basically all they can remember. Just to the point where you should really think about marriage.

    No one should feel obligated to get married. If that person cannot wait 7 years to tie the knot then they aren't ready for the rest of the ~55+ years.

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  • [–] 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (3 children)

    See that's the problem with age differences.

    If I tell you they are 23 years apart, you think "uhh".

    If I tell you they are 17 and 40, you think "UHHHHH"

    Lets see if it applies to me:

    Me and her are 11 years apart.

    Me and her are 23 and 34.

    Hmm.

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  • [–] 16 points 6 months ago*

    Well, yeah, of course that's less bad. You're both older and the difference is less

    Ultimately a lot of it comes down to levels of maturity and the places ones are in their lives anyway. A 17 year old definitively can never be mature enough to have a healthy relationship with a 40 year old

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